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Problems of communicating in Discussion Forums

#1

Folks - this is a friendly reminder that you have to be careful about how you write and also read - the messages in discussion forums.

Here is an interesting note from Psychology Today:

Email (or text in forums), has become the default mode of communication for many people. It’s quick, efficient, and one doesn’t have to engage in live, real-time emotional responses to the message.
While the splendid isolation from immediate emotional reactions may be a comfort for some, it eliminates the most valuable information of any conversation. In face-to-face communication, we rely heavily on non-verbal information like facial expression, body posture, gestures, and voice tone to interpret and predict other people’s behavior.

Without these important non-verbal cues, our imaginations fill in the blanks of what the person sending the message sender intended, and how they felt about the communication. We rarely fill in the blanks with positive intentions. This can lead to misunderstanding, damaged relationships, and poor business decisions.

Given that many of us must communicate via email and text, we should be aware of the fact that emails can have a “tone.” People will remember the emotional tone of an email more vividly and longer than the content.

Email tone is conveyed through word choice, syntax, punctuation, letter case, sentence length, opening, closing, and other graphic indicators like emoticons and emoji.

Insight: Just because you write in a certain way doesn’t mean it’s received the same way.

In a conversation, there is a physical climate as well as a psychological climate. When you are co-located with the person with whom you are speaking, you are sharing the same physical climate. You are in the same physical space pretty much experiencing the same environment. However, you can share the same physical climate with a person and be in very different psychological climates. Your life may be fairly stress-free at the moment, while the person with whom you are communicating may be operating with tight deadlines and a host of personal problems. When you are co-located, you are more likely to recognize and respond to the psychological climate of the person as compared to when you can’t see or hear them.

Consider this: Compose your email recognizing that the receiver may not be in the same mood or emotional state as you. Try to imagine how the person receiving the email could interpret it.

Insight: When we read an email, we attempt to read intention and tone into the words. If the message is ambiguous, many people will automatically read the most negative emotions and intentions into it.

Have you ever made inferences about a person not responding to an email that you sent them? Is your first thought that the person doesn’t think your message was important, or they are trying to avoid the issue in the email?

Check out the possible email tone interpretations in the following messages:

  1. What was written: If you don’t get that to me by 1:00 pm today, we’re going to miss our deadline.

Tone Interpretation: Hey dummy, we’re going to miss the deadline and it’s your fault.

What could have been written: Today’s 1:00 pm deadline is particularly critical. It’s very important that I get your feedback today, so we can deliver to you on schedule. Thanks for your help!

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#2

I remember trying to get my mom to understand that typing an email all in caps meant that she was yelling. I don’t think she got it :wink:

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#3

When I do it, it is usually emphasis, not yelling. It’s easier than the steps you must go through to put in bold or italic words… but I have been accused of yelling before.

Emoticons are a good way of expressing yourself as well as actual pictures of facial expressions sometimes…

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#4

lol the whole email, 3 paragraphs, would be in caps :smile:

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