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(POLL) Do you think you can tend to be an abuse magnet?

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For sure. There are nasty people in the world, and if you’re the slowest zebra in the pack you’re in trouble.

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I have a tendency to turn on myself.

I was sexually molested by an eighteen year old boy when I was four years old. They say that the static we hear on radios is left over radiation from the big bang. That’s the way I see how I am affected by that now. There is static in my emotional life from my abuse at a young age. I’ve also been abused as an adult. I don’t know how, but somehow the people on my floor in the dorm at college could see through my door and see all my private activities when I was alone in my room. That is the most heinous violation of my privacy possible. It was impossible for them to see through my door, and yet they did. Now people are trying to force me to have gay sex against my will. I’m not going to take it. They can go to hell.

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I think I used to attract bad people. These days I go out of my way to seem intimidating (though not in a mean way unless absolutely necessary). Kind of working so far?

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Is that a chip tha ripper reference in your tag line? I love that song @antidepressant044

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I used to think like that, but then I started to think who was abusing me.

Usually people do that to feel better with themselves, with an attitude like my life is bad but his life is worst. Their life will still be ■■■■ no matter what they say, my opinion towards my life won’t change by abusive words, in the end they are only words. So whenever they say harsh things I ignore and don’t even answer and their talk finishes shortly after.

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I used to be, then turned into a mega Beyotch. People knew I’d throw hands, man or woman. I didn’t care. I somehow still ended up with my abusive ex.

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I used to be for sure. But now I isolate myself so much no one has the chance anymore.

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I was definitely a target for Narcissistic types for years.
Not so much now, I’m starting to push back.

But unfortunately I’m still under constant attack from my Narcissist brother.

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I get a very interesting pattern of behavior in the way people react to me. I am very good looking. I say that without any pride, because I believe it is how you handle your appearance that matters. When I was in the army I looked like Private Rock in my uniform. When we went to the field, somehow the gear I wore was compelling. A lot of my friends commented on it. My appearance also had a strong effect on officers. One time right before a big inspection all these officers were coming around trying to help out with my chemical warfare room. The First Sergeant looked at me and asked, “Why are you bringing all these officers around?” I didn’t know what to say. Quite often, though, my attention from higher ups made the other soldiers resent me. They did not want me placed over them. They expressed their resentment by doing jobs I was supposed to do before I could do them. As a result, a lot of the work on my track was getting done very fast. That was something the officers attributed to me too. I did handle their resentment well, though. I just did other stuff when they took over without asking something I was supposed to do. As a result, a lot of work on my armored personal carrier vehicle was done very fast. Maybe it was kind of pud for me to let other guys to do my work for me, but I was afraid they wouldn’t give me help when I needed it on down the line when I did that. Also, there are a lot of ways they can sabotage other people’s efforts in the army. This was a fairly painful period of my life that I don’t like to dwell on. Women often react to me very badly. A lot of women do not like good looking guys. I can catch hell from them when I do something they don’t like. … One time I was working in a pizza delivery operation, and I was kind of slow at my work because I had worked in fast food very little. A couple of the people higher up were brusque with me because I was slow. But the owner of the store wanted to keep me on because I just took it when someone brought me up short. It kind of created an atmosphere of genial obedience to people one level above the drivers in that store. At that store there was a fair amount on contention between people, and people would sometimes walk out on the job because they got hot under the collar. … So I would have to say that I’m about neutral in my encounters with abuse.

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Sure, I was feeling good tonight. The neighbor was sitting out back and picked up on something (I don’t know what). He got all loud and overbearing and condescending till I gave up. People wish me bad. I can be doing the exact same thing as someone else but everybody will give them approval, but just laugh at me and wish me bad.

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I once saw something that changed my whole outlook.

“You don’t attract abusive people. Abusive people go to everyone. They aren’t picky. The problem is that you let them stay.”

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I used to be a bit of a push over but I’m pretty good at standing my ground now. I’m not afraid to have hard conversations or conflict resolution stuff

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it can seem that way.

you need someone to reassure you, you may have interpreted it wrong.

I went out today to go to Family Dollar close by and someone was at my opposite my neighbor’s with some kind of rider,

and I hollared over, What ya got there?

he didn’t turn, he didn’t acknowledge, didn’t reply.

Phil said he probably didn’t hear me. idk.

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I used to think this but I saw something online that said the problem isn’t that you attract bad. People, bad people attach to anyone giving them the time, the problem is you letting them stay.

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Yes what ninja star said rings true

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I disagree, bullys or Narcissistic people tend to target empathetic kind people.

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I didn’t see you had posted this!

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Two ways to say the same thing. Bullies will bully anyone they think won’t fight back. If you are someone who doesn’t fight back, doesn’tcut them off, etc, they willbe around you soing that more often.

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