If there is any one behavior I see more than any other on this forum, this is it.
All right… or all wrong.
All good… or all bad.
All win… or all lose.
Either / or and no in betweens.
Pure dichotomy. No room for shades of gray.
“All meds suck.” “There’s never any hope.” “The docs are all f##k-wits.” “The system is completely broken.” “No one can help me.” “Everyone is out to get me.”
Life is simply not like this. But one has to observe to recognize that, not slam-dunk some assertion based on a belief one may not even be able to bring to consciousness.
Things are the way they are when they are the way they are. Things change. We have been taught to believe they stay the same… to make us feel secure? But we don’t.
So why insist that something is this way or that way… instead of allowing it to be exactly as it is when it is as it is?
(This message was brought to you by Ekhardt Tolle, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Stephen Hayes, Marsha Linehan. Daniel Seigel, M. Scott Peck, Pema Chodron, Stephen Levine, Albet Ellis, Aaron Beck, Wayne Dyer, Thich Nhat Han, Depak Chopra, Tara Brach, Chogyam Trungpa, the 14th Dalai Lama, and Alanis Morissette.)