I’m phoning a relative too much—about four times a day. I don’t talk for long, just five or ten minutes. I rarely complain, or show signs of negativity. It’s just to touch base, but we both have nothing new to say. How do I stop calling so much? What do I replace it with? I’m so isolated. I tried chatting with the local distress centre, via their chat option, but most of the time the person on shift is juggling several other people, and I am left waiting for five minutes for their next response. I could phone them but it’s easier to chat than to phone someone, and I don’t want to tie up their lines.
This forum has been a good distraction, and a type of socialization, but it’s like there’s this giant hole in me that can’t even be filled by the forums I go to.
I thought about that, but I can’t afford one right now. I’ll need to make some changes to my apartment too. It’s not cat-proof (I’ve got a set of 3, staggered shelves, that go from small, medium and large). Maybe in the future, I’ll be a cat mom.
The meetups are all being done on zoom. I can’t get past my paranoia and install a webcam. Hackers could use it to watch me. I’ll join a support group once covid dies down, but that might be a while, because we’re heading toward a 4th lock down. Thanks for the suggestion though.
It is hard, the feeling of isolation. Maybe you could try talking to a peer support specialist? I have had one for years and she’s amazing. We don’t even necessarily talk with each other about the issues I have, mostly we exchange recipes and I enjoy her company. It’s kind of a no pressure social situation because peer support workers are people who have had their own mental health/addiction struggles. Just an idea?