People seem to think that my problems can be solved by me just thinking differently. Other people think i’m just lazy and enjoy a life on benefits. I have it hard, i have problems, having this illness is no walk in the park, i’m not enjoying life while they seem to
‘while they seem to’ is the key phrase. I think the vast majority of people over 40 are miserable. The vast majority of people under 40 are kept going by hope.
Out of the over twenty times I was taken to the mental hospital, I only asked to be taken once. I guess they figured they could keep me out of the hospital better if I was on disability and got treatment. Sometimes I feel a little bad being a burden to society, but mostly I don’t dwell on it.
Sorry. I don’t know where my under/over 40 theory just came from, I think I’m feeling a bit on the bitter side today. It’s obviously a stupid theory.
I don’t think anyone would even be concerned about our depending on the system to support some of us , it’s only that there are too many people faking their problems to get a free lunch so there are too many needy, gimme, takey people out here for our system to handle. It’s like with any other group of people, wherein the bad ones are giving the good ones a bad representation.
such is life man
I am thankful I get benefits because I would be unable to make it without them. But I still feel guilty, I’ve worked most of my life, I’m a late onset. I still don’t know what to tell people I meet about what do I do. I usually say I’m retired which is pretty much what I am. I have good days or parts of days when I feel like maybe I can get back into things. But maybe I will find a new way.
Uh, well, there’s a lot of support for such a view from more researchers and observers than I could list in an hour. “Miserable” may be too overstating it for many over 40, but “Run baby, run baby, run baby, run baby, run” (as per Ms. Crow) sure speaks to what anyone with eyes and ears can see and hear among most people who’ve “bought the program.”
I ran myself into 14 hospitalizations, two of them in ICUs after suicide attempts, and nine years of utter hell… 'cause I “bought the program” and became… miserable.
I am 45 and am miserable for much of the time, with occasional glimpses of happiness. I recently gave up having hope in life and I just try to live day to day.
I think your theory is pretty sound.
You stated exactly how I feel. My illness is pretty overwhelming. At least I am not harming the economy, like some of these overpaid Wall Street executives.
i am on disability ( the last year and a half )…personally i don’t want to be…but it has helped me heaps.
Hey, join the club. It is known that most people in the UK are passionate about forking out tax money for the needy who apparently take advantage… I’m exhausted by opinion. I worked for fifteen years in work I had to pretend to manage whilst acting normal and am very tired. Never once did I vote right wing or complain about the needy but I was unique!
I don’t think anyone enjoys a life on benefits. At least not in North America where the benefits you receive are so insubstantial that there is no possibility of enjoying life, as it were. Don’t know what things are like in Europe, but on this side of the pond, not so great.
Benefits in UK are more generous I believe. I’m one of the lucky ones who are looked after by my family, husband and the state so am financially affluent by comparison. I live in a four bedroomed new build with nothing wanting. But, I do suffer serious mental health problems I don’t disclose to many…
I’ve been on government bennies for all my adult life. I’ve had a few paying jobs, but because of my illness, I truly wasn’t able to keep them very long. I understand there are people who might resent having to pay taxes to help disabled people. Yet in a civilized society, we don’t shoot the wounded, or the sick. In the United States it is everyone’s right to say whatever they like about things. I may not like what some pundits say about freeloaders because it seems as though they’re lumping me together with them, and maybe some of them are. No matter. Reality has my back. I’m perfectly happy with my austerity because it is my lot in life, and I accept it with gratitude. As I see it, the people of my country have been kind to me for over 34 years now, and I’ve got nothing to complain about. There’s always going to be someone richer than me, and many who are poorer too. As the world keeps turning, I can see that the good germs are winning, gradually.
its great when you are ill and you have some money, i think the more you have the better you feel bc you can buy things that make you happy, thats what i do anyway, i try and save my money and go on holidays and buy things that are nice like iced frappes and lattes and thngs, i also have started collecting music and i love my limited edition vinyl,
the money helps but so does the drugs, my meds help me immensely, i dont think i would be happy if not for them either.
Money is just a system. There are many forms of wealth. If you are able to heal while accepting benefits that’s great. You can take the time you have to lend a hand in other ways. Even just hanging out at the park one day and talking to a lonely person can contribute so much. That’s just an example, but doing something that may contribute to your community shouldn’t be overlooked. Even visiting an animal shelter every so often. People need things other than money or what money can buy.