Paying it forward

So my sister in law reached out to me Saturday and told me she was going to lose everything and she was ready to leave the mountain where she’s been living for the past 15 years, behind her. She is mentally and physically spent and she reached out to me. My husband and I talked it over and we agreed to let her stay with us until she becomes well again. Now, I’m sooo grateful we are able to help her think for her and take her to get her SSI and anything else she needs and in return she’s paying us in child support money and food stamps. I am so happy we can do this. My fear tho is when I start to get symptoms which happen on and off and do and say bizzaro things. What am I supposed to do? My husband has already had this discussion with me. Do I tell her hey I can’t be there for you while I need others? I mean I barely take care of myself, like get up to eat and even wash myself. I’m going on my 3rd day without a shower. I did get to make food for me and the kids and give them things to do, while making sure my sister in law took her meds. I have to have my husband watch me take mine. I’m just worried I’m going to become symptomatic and f it all up! I’m very toxic when I’m in my own delusions. Anyway, don’t know how to step back and say “hey I can’t help right now”.

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I’d suggest you get your husband to deal with it. Let him say your under stress and you can’t commit at the moment. Lay it out there…

It’s always tough but you need to do you and worry about other things later. I think your hubby is good enough to deal with this and working with him is a good thing for you.

It’s never easy but glad you could help out your in law.

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Yeah, I’ve been pondering this all day. Like I am so grateful that she has been there for me and I just want to be another form of support. But yeah I’ll let my hubby take the reigns for now and I’ll step back a bit.

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