Meaning that instead of wanting me to live like a man, they want me to live like a boy. Seems like any decision I make that would be considered an adult decision makes them frown and worry. I’m thinking this right now because it looks like I could be able to move out, and each time I think about that they encourage me to stay with them.
My parents have admitted that they know they weren’t very effective at parenting… and in my opinion that’s the reason why my sister and I have both been late to do things in life that adults do. I just get this feeling like they have this subconscious desire to have their “little boy” back, even though I’m in my thirties now, because those early years were happiest for our family.
How likely do you think it is that my fear is correct? Maybe I just resent my parents for not ingraining important lessons in me, and the way my life turned out as a result. I don’t know.
It’s not like I wouldn’t just make my own decision despite what they think, I’ve done that before. But something just feels wrong when they seem to want me to stay with them so much.
I think you are a little biased because, from what you’ve said, one parent was not there and the other one was a horrible parent. I wouldn’t want to cut my parents out of my life either personally. I have pretty decent parents, at least my dad for sure . and sometimes my mom.