Hello, been a little while since I’ve made a thread. I’m getting better but still dealing with the aftermath of a long period of lashing out and generally being a terrible person (my therapist attributes this to depression, and I can’t disagree, at the root of my nastiness was self-hatred). I’ve received forgiveness from the people I hurt but I still feel so incredibly guilty. I used to be known as a kind person and I want to be known as one yet again but it’ll take work to get back there, I think.
What are ways that you guys cope or have coped with guilt?
I wish I knew the answer, but I struggle a lot with guilt myself.
I try to rationalise what I’m feeling guilty about by telling myself things like “There was nothing else that could have been done” or “I can’t take back what happened, so I might as well just work on not letting if happen again”
Don’t be hard on yourself, try to learn from your mistake and make an honest promise that it won’t happen another time.
I have a lot of guilt too, mostly due to my OCD. I don’t always deal with it well, but sometimes distracting myself helps take my mind off of it. I mostly watch TV or YouTube videos.
Lashing out? Did you put somebody in a hospital or something? Sorry to pry.
I’ve misbehaved in the past, and I think I will in the future.
Anyway, you can’t live in the past, you can only live from now into some undetermined point in the future. If people are reminding you of your past shortcomings, those people are turds that need cutting out of your life, whether literally or just through cutting them out of your circle of people you’ll feel guilty for hurting.
Here is most difficult problem face us all in life either be kind or terrible
Life is not white black but there is gray
Too much of black plus white
Or too much white plus black
You should be gray kind and not kind
Life is full lof bad people you should not be kind anymore
Life alao full of good people you should listen , hear to their words kindly reply to them
Life is so big and we so small!
Trying my best to change myself and forgiving my mistakes by myself to able myself to be focused on getting to the point of being a nice person,
Forgive your mistakes and focus again on being a nice person after mistaking,
I agree you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. You can’t change it, but you can learn from it. Forgiving yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself. In time, I’m sure you’ll be able to.
I’m getting better but still dealing with the aftermath of a long period of lashing out and generally being a terrible person (my therapist attributes this to depression, and I can’t disagree, at the root of my nastiness was self-hatred). I’ve received forgiveness from the people I hurt but I still feel so incredibly guilty. I used to be known as a kind person and I want to be known as one yet again but it’ll take work to get back there, I think.