The idea was that the child didn’t really want to know and was only asking questions to irritate someone. Not true. Children really don’t know it all.
Children don’t really need to know it all, either. Some things you save for later on as certain topics are inappropriate and even traumatic for very small kids. Now that my daughter is a teen, our conversations are more expansive (but not too much so). Timing is everything.
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I think that kids pick up stuff on their own - but I did ask my brother if he had a big conversation about drugs and sex with his son, my nephew - he is 13 years old. my brother reassured me that he discussed important topics with my nephew - I just wished my parents had discussed drug use with me as a teen - never had that conversation, and I got burned in the end
My kid knows my booze/drug history in general terms. She has been to open AA functions with me. I’ve made it clear that because I have a problem, she is likely to have inherited some of it. So far she has a good attitude about avoiding the stuff. Hope it stays that way.
FWIW, I don’t tell her not to drink, but that if she does, don’t get carried away, and to watch out for situations where someone can tranq her drink on her. We’ve warned her about date rape.
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