If sounds like you might need an attitude change.
If you feel smalltalk is beneath you and a waste of time, consider this:
Smalltalk is a stepping stone to bonding and trust.
If you can’t build enough of a bond or sense of trust with someone over small things, there’s a good chance you won’t reach that part of a friendship with them where deep or intellectual conversations happen.
Smalltalk is also a door opener. A conversation might start with “so, walking the dog, eh?” But it’s only a way to get a foot in the door. Chitchat often leads to deeper conversations if you participate without prejudice.
But it won’t, if you instantly write it off as annoying and useless.
Yes, small talk is kind of like conversational foreplay. A way for people to test each other out to see if there is potential for something more. When you get to know people well you can talk more intimately with them.
There are books on the subject of conversation. I actually bought one. “The art of conversation”. Just need to read it Have to meet people in the middle, can’t expect everything to fall in place without giving a effort.
I avoid people irl avoid tv avoid things
Because i can only think better in quiet and cant deal with people or noise
I go for a coffee or food shop but only at quiet times occasionally
If you met me you wouldn’t think of me as a positive person. I’m more of a realist. But positivity does help. Gotta keep a smile while you’re fighting these battles, you know?
Until you stop living from a place of fear you will feel stuck. When I was afraid to leave the house it was because I was projecting all sorts of awful things onto people and the outside world. Meanwhile the outside world didn’t care what i thought. It just kept going on anyway. We’re connected to reality but we aren’t the center of the universe. Most people are too busy doing their own thing to care about us. And because nobody cares, we’re free.
I don’t want to fit in to society anyway if that means going against my morals as I have different beliefs than society with their hierarchy i don’t want part of.
I could be a little bit of a anarchist.
Best wishes for us to find our people.
We are just right for our people just as we are.