I was not the most worldly guy at age 19. I got around a bit but I never “ran the streets” or anything like that.
So when I was 19 and moved into a group home I was shocked to discover that one of the older residents had spent time in prison. I was indignant that they would let someone like that live there and I even told the head guy who ran the place to kick him out.
They didn’t kick him out and eventually I learned he was pretty harmless and I didn’t fear him. And eventually we got some guy who had been in jail and a year later when I was hospitalized it seemed that half the guys had been to jail and it didn’t bother me.
I relate to this went to a group when I was 22 and some guy came up to me and tried to help he was unshaven and scruffy I thought who is trying to help me some kind of Tramp?