And I HATED it because i was sensitive. Now she says "you’re not sensitive anymore, I’m not sure what happened ". But I do. But anyways, I find it annoying when people are told they’re sensitive. I know I would never call a sensitive person “sensitive” because well…they’re sensitive. And don’t like criticism like that. Unless it’s my mom who gets joy out of knowing she’s "sensitive "…don’t call sensitive people "sensitive ". It’s offensive and they can’t just change it by hearing about it!
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I’m sensitive and I don’t mind being called that… I see it as compliment 
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Yeh I hated people saying to me ‘don’t be shy.’
Like, ‘shyness’ is a button which you can just turn on and off.
Looking back I guess I wasn’t shy, just social paranoia.
But yeh, I found it insulting.
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Maybe it’s just my ego. I was gonna say it’s a gendered thing, and although I think most males don’t like being called sensitive…I know many girls who would hate it too, so it’s not 100% gender based but maybe 50% it is. I guess you gotta be intuitive to who wants to be called sensitive…many people, male or female wouldn’t like it.
That’s another one…I wasn’t shy…I was just delusional and had no idea what was going on!
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I’d never call a person ‘sensitive’ I think it’s insulting.
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Sorry if this is sexist but maybe it’s different depending on your gender…
I think the best thing you can say is "I think you were being a tad bit sensitive in that situation ". But don’t tell someone as a whole that they are sensitive.
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I think you guys are being too sensitive about it… 
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sensitiveness sometimes can be good.play it ez…i know ur a good person…!!!
No it was a terrible thing…I couldn’t go to aa because I couldn’t take criticism. I’m no longer sensitive…but she said "I worry you’ll never graduate college because you’re hypersensitive ". Now I don’t have that issue. She says. “You used to say ■■■■ me” when faced with criticism. Now I say “■■■■ you”. And thank god for that. There’s three main reasons why I’m not sensitive anymore.
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its a bitch ass suggestion to anybody…plz turn deaf ear to her…maintain silence…u can easily get over of this chaotic situation moral of the story iz sure sz folks are surely sensitive for good…if u are not i will have to trust u…!!!
Naltrexone helped
Sobriety helped
And putting myself in other shoes and understanding everyone has issues helped
Teachers used to pick on me a lot for being sz and I would take it too personally. I dropped five classes due to hypersensitivity…now I say “that’s their issue not mine”
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I get it… I don’t like some thing my therapist tells me sometimes either. They’re only human though, they think it’s okay to say some things, when they don’t know the effect it can have.
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Talking about it even builds a thicker skin. I feel better right now. I’m walking around right now with my chest puffed up thinking “no one can touch me” after discussing it. Don’t wanna get TOO cocky though.
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Maybe you were hypersensitive and she helped you build that thicker skin… or was this recent?
I thought about that. It’s been a slow process. Maybe she motivated me to become less insecure. But I’ve been working on my insecurities since I started using drugs. Although that was just masking…it gave me the false sense of confidence to put myself in situations to gain life experience which made me less sensitive. But I think it was the philosophy …hearing the owl which I talk about a lot…which really helped me get over insecurities. And my anxiety going away helped. And meds, abilify and naltrexone. But really I was still sensitive 20 days into sobriety I get a thicker skin the more sober I get. Being around people in aa. So many reasons. I remember 35 days sober some lady said something insulting and I pretty much said f you in my mind rather than taking it personally. Aa is great because I’ve never been around people so much in my life.
Hmm I see… I think you’re not giving her enough credit, though 
She’s very supportive of you, from that text you showed us, she really builds up your confidence.
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The culture behind aa is when you say “I’m 8 days sober” they sometimes say “great job!” But others say insulting things. When you get to be 81 days sober…you’re one of them and they believe you more and don’t criticize as much too. But my therapist gave me the OK to going back to school because she said I don’t take things too personally anymore.
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