is being able to be around drinkers and not drink. i don’t drink a lot, and no longer go to parties or bars and don’t buy alcohol. but i am a lot of times over at mom and dad’s and they offer me a glass of wine, and i have no willpower to say no. im thinking if i can just quit for a couple years, a glass of wine will be something i no longer want and will be easy to turn down.
mom and dad never drank growing up, but ever since their trip to italy they have started wine once a week. with weed it helped that i was never around the stuff when i decided to quit, so that made it easy. now almost 7 years have passed without smoking and it’s not something i even want anymore. i think the same thing would be true of alcohol, but i just can’t get away from it.
i just had a conversation with mom and dad, and told them that if they quit, it would make it much easier for me to quit drinking. in the meantime, i am going to have to have more will power and say no when offered a glass. its been 2 weeks since my last glass of wine, because it hasn’t been offered to me in that time. wish me strength and willpower!
It sounds like you don’t currently drink a whole lot, so giving it up shouldn’t be too tough. Although, I know I’d have trouble giving it up, too, and I don’t drink a whole lot either (I stick with beer). Good luck, man, I hope you’re able to achieve your goal and give it up completely.
I ‘quit’ drinking once. Then I moved up to 1 glass of wine per night. Then I wanted to up that…
That’s when I quit drinking for real. This was like 4.5 years ago.
It was obnoxious because my step dad (who I was living with) is an alcoholic and he continually ask me if I want a drink. He couldn’t imagine why anyone would want to quit drinking I guess.
what i want most of it all. is to not want it in the first place. one glass isn’t that great, getting drunk is not enjoyable anymore. why do i want the one glass? i need to get away from it.
@Lifer it sounds like you have a pretty good grasp on things,. Are you concerned that the glass of wine would tempt you to go backward into alcoholism?
I have been sober for 15 years, and now I don’t crave it at all, I don’t think I could go back to drinking if I tried. But there are a few people I will have a beer with. There is an association of good times and camaraderie connected to it. But after two beers, it might be a year before I have another
@Lifer maybe it’s the ultimate peer pressure with your parents. A peace offering on their part, and an acceptance of you, and you wanting to feel a part of that. I don’t know, I’m shooting in the dark here. The fact that is just with your parents gives me pause for thought… That’s interesting
my dad didn’t really say much of note. i’ve already forgotten his words to me. o now i remember, he said, “don’t ask for it, and we won’t offer you any” so that doesn’t help me much. but we talked so now im thinking they won’t offer me any. if only i had something else to drink for awhile, like a diet coke at dinner or something.
not only is it a labeling gimmick, but those drinks
turn to formaldahyde (sp) in the body.
also, low-fat, and low-salt items are myths
that they’re better for you.
Everyone needs healthy fats,
and if you’re having frequent
leg cramps, you need more salt.
I took an online course in Food, Health, and Nutrition.
I feel the same. I liked a glass of wine, but i couldn’t control it anymore, even i don’t like being drunk, and ended up drinking the whole bottle anyway, so now i have stopped and been alco free for a week.
You’re doing the right thing. How did your parents respond?