My father called the police

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Good morning,

Sorry, that I rarely visit this forum last several weeks. I have several reasons, I work a lot on my bachelors and overall I had little insight to my illness last days.

So… Yesterday my father called the police because my brother tried beating my mom OR father (I still dont know what hapenned for 100% because I was not at home at the momemt when all the things happened)
Its not the first time to my brother when he has problems with police.

I am tired of my whole family.
I wasnt at that moment when the police was invited, but my mom and brother says its my fault, that the police came. Before I left my parents house I actually was arguing with bro and mom, but how TF it’s my fault that the police was invited?

I am my family scapegoat for sure. Overall, the environment in my family is very toxic.

And it’s very sad, that my brother doen’t try to change.

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I went through a very dysfunctional family when I was age 15 to about 45

Since then we have become functional and enjoy each other and appreciate each other and love each other

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I was a bit of a scapegoat for a long time. In some ways, i still am. I know what that kind of dysfunctionality is like.

I hope it gets better for you. Good luck with your bachelors. Hope it goes the way you want it

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I just keep thinking, why my family choose as a scapegoat me. It’s kind of hard to understand…

Thanks a lot! :innocent: I hope I will finnish this college finally

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I feel that way too. Sometimes people chose to take their emotions out on people, they blame people instead of what causes problems and they become used to doing this.

I wish it wasn’t this way, but it happens, they always have to blame someone - probably because they’re always thinking about people, so comparing peoples reception towards them regularly so as to forget inanimate objects and concepts can cause trouble too.

But yeah, you’ll be fine, .You got this! Make the most of it!

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I want you to hear me when I say this, and I’m going to use all caps so everyone can hear me: YOUR BROTHER BEING VIOLENT IS NEVER YOUR FAULT!!! That is some manipulative bullcrap and I’m sorry they tried to put that on you. He is in control of his own actions, and he needs some serious anger management, intensive therapy, or a good kick in the ass for this behavior. Or a mix of all three. How old is your brother?

DISCLAIMER: I’m assuming he is of an age where he’s responsible of his reason and isn’t legally insane and is relatively cognitively sound.

If you have a way to keep some distance from this volatile situation I would recommend going that route.

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Trying to spend less and less time at my parents home, I will spend more time at BF’s place,

Sadly he is turning 34 soon, he shall understand consequences of such actions…

And thanks for support! :innocent:

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I think, your brother fight with your mother, related to your matters. Find it clear from your mother. After all it’s your family.

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I know it’s my family,
But they’re blaming me for literally no reason. I even wasn’t at home at the time.

I do care about them, but it’s too much of their blame and manipulations in my life.

I tried to ask what happened - and both mom and dad gave different explanations.

Overall they also laugh from me that I have mental problems, so… :confused: it’s a long story, but all I can say is that probably my parents don’t even love me in an unconditional way.

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My parents hated me behind my back. Things I overheard. They were cowards of love.

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Are you able to move away from them?

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Now, I can only try to spend even less time here,

But I hope soon I will start working and I could leave them

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