To save money on electricity and internet. I swear if that happens Imma open a vein. He’s a slob for one thing and for 2 he yells at me all the time. I’m so depressed over this. I swear I’ll charge him a ■■■■■■■ cleaning fee.
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Are you able to reject? If it were me, I’d find any way to say no. Firmly but nicely.
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Politely decline telling him you have your own mental health issues to deal with and you aren’t ready for another person on the scene…not just him, but anybody.
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He helps me a lot. I just can’t deal with my house getting trashed and it will. He’s like that Peanuts character. Every where he goes mess follows him. Plus he throws a tantrum if you don’t agree with him. We’re neighbors
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My Dad also yells it use to really hurt my feelings when i was younger
Now he never yells at me since Ive gotten older
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I don’t think I could deal with that.
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It’s a recipe for disaster. Agree with @Patrick on politely declining.
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That sounds like a nightmare.
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I agree with politely declining. Sorry you’re dealing with that.
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Say no.
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My mom wants to see me over Christmas and I can’t travel down south.
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Definitely politely decline!
You need to be firm and guard your boundaries.
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I think you should sit him down over a meal and tell him you love him, but his yelling stresses you out too much. Let him know how it affects you. Then let him know another concern you have is that you live different lifestyles- he’s messy and you’re clean. Then let him know that you can’t live with him because those things affect your mental health too much
If he starts yelling during the conversation just stop talking and after you leave, write him a letter explaining everything.
This conversation would be best had at a public place like a restaurant if at all possible
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No ■■■■■■■ way.
You talk about your dad frequently and he’s not very pleasant sounding.
He’s very critical of you and you don’t need that in your house.
He’s a grown ass man, he can pay his own bills in his own house.
I’d really put my foot down or you’re going to be miserable.
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I say that all the active members of this forum move into one big house to save money. Sharing 3 bathrooms among 150 people shouldn’t be too much of a problem. @zwolfgang , @Cragger and our other musicians could entertain us nightly in the common room. We might have to buy bunk beds for sleeping arrangements though…dunno if anyone is afraid of heights.
It’s all starting to come together 
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Who’s with me?!
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@jukebox and @Jonnybegood are also musicians
Edit Where is jonnybegood?
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Objection noted. Otherwise no problems with my plan?
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That was not an objection. Silly. It was an invite
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@Loke if you are looking for a way to word it you might be able to say something like “i really value the relationship we have, and i know that if we lived together, it would become horribly damaged. I love you and love talking to you too much to throw it away.”
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I wonder where this building would be since we’re from all over the world!
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