Love may not heal us

but it surely makes me feel good.

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Don’t rely on anyone else to fix you or make you happy or anything. We have to do all that ourselves.

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Long time ago in 1999 when I started hearing voices, the voice told me ‘trust yourself, they trust you, you trust them’, maybe it is the same with love ‘love yourself, they love you, you love them’. I never knew who was this ‘they’.

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Some of us have never experienced love and need demonstrated ideas from others.

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I believe that love starts from our innerself, when we love ourselves we have much more positive behaviors, we may smile more, and these positive behaviors attract others who have similar innerlove, similar loving behaviors and so we may attract love, it is the same with self-respect, to gain respect from others, we must first respect ourselves.

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true that… tough to do when others have made one feel good in the past… a lot of people do hear this advice and still turn away from the theory…

there is little that can be done to change the immediate environment… there is a lot that can be done to make yourself prepared for it. Isolated solidarity is among one of the most powerful tools there is for that.

People judge, don’t pay attention to it.
People will reject you… there are always more.
The good eggs will treat you like a human being, look for those folk… ignore the others

“Hell is the suffering of those who have not learned how to love.”

  • Dostoyevsky -
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@mjseu @crimby @Azley @chordy @schizofriendia

I was reading along in one of his many books a few years ago, when the little old man with the funny hair said, “Love is being with what is in relationship.” I struggled with it for quite a while. But the more I used all those therapies I keep listing (see below One More Time), the more I understood exactly what he meant.

Because, he said, if one really looks to see, it becomes obvious that “romance” is not love. Romance is a state of mind, and quite often one that is patently delusional (believe me, I know).

Finally, he asserted that if “love is being with what is in relationship,” there is no such thing as either “conditional” or “unconditional” love (though there may be conditional or unconditional approval, something that must – by its nature – be conferred upon us by something other than our “selves”).

http://www.jkrishnamurti.org/krishnamurti-teachings/view-text.php?tid=405&chid=4724

DBT – http://behavioraltech.org/resources/whatisdbt.cfm
MBSR – http://www.mindfullivingprograms.com/whatMBSR.php
MBCT - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22340145
ACT – https://contextualscience.org/act
Vipassana – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vipassanā
MBBT – https://www.newharbinger.com/blog/introduction-mind-body-bridging-i-system
SEPT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_Experiencing
SMPT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensorimotor_psychotherapy
REBT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy
Schematherapy – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_Therapy
Learned Optimism – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism
Standard CBT – https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Treatment/Psychotherapy & scroll down
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Get two or more of those “down,” and one can use the skills therefrom in this way to combat delusional thinking and emotional reactivity very quickly: 10 StEP – http://pairadocks.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-10-steps-of-emotion-processing.html

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The only True Love will be found in God. He wants us to love ourselves enough to respect ourselves. I have learned this over the last 15 years.

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