Looking for a partner is like looking for a job

Health and Recovery
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I’ve been looking for a partner - went to speed dating and singles party, subscribed to an online dating site…And I am exhausted and pessimistic. Every date is like a job interview.

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Well at least you’re getting dates ! That’s a good sign. You’ll find the right guy.

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I have only ever had one proper date and I am 31…

She was too emotional and she was infatuated with me and constantly wanted me to hold hands, kiss or touch each other in some way. She was ■■■■■■■ nuts basically. I am not the kind of person who likes public displays of affection…

How many have you been on through online dating?

I have ended up on Whats App with one person who hasn’t replied in over two weeks, and just get constant messages spamming me to go to person porn sites or profiles on sex websites. It’s pretty ■■■■ to be honest…

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I want looking for a partner to be fun and right now that’s not the case so am just not gonna do it.

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I like the title of the thread lol :+1:

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I also hate public displays. I recently went out with a guy I met on speed dating and he started kissing me and touching me in the park - I hated it! Went on 4th date with him and it was boring. Obviously he’s not serious.

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Yeah I felt that way a few times. The serious ones didn’t think I was good enough and the others just wanted to pass time. I dated a heck of a lot. I constantly talked and made people’s ears bleed here. This one however is my longest relationship. 11 months and going strong :grin: so sometimes definitely out there but you’ll have to go through a lot of idiots.

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I hate public displays too. Not so much privately though. But still difficult when it comes to sex we don’t do it at all :flushed:

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Quite encouraging! Thanks :wink:

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You have a boyfriend and you don’t have sex? Sorry, I didn’t get this

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I’m uncomfortable with intimacy I’m still getting used to being in a relationship. I want to , we did it once , but still in the process of getting and feeling comfortable. I like he’s patient.

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I also have problems with intimacy. I never really had a boyfriend. Though I turned out as a one night stands’ queen. Not proud of it. And I always had to drink or get high to have sex…Now as I am sober it’s even harder!
If he/she is patient this is good news! I still believe a relationship is not only about sex

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Hey it’s ok … You have nothing to be ashamed of… You will find someone just know you’ll come across a lot A LOT of idiots. Don’t let it get you down because when the right one does come along he will never treat you like that.

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Such warming words you say! Thank you <3

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I’m sorry just being honest dating sites are full of them.

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If you really want a good boyfriend why do you keep up with the one night stands?

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I haven’t done that in 3 years. And haven’t been with a guy for almost 2 years. I have changed

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I don’t want to make you feel bad, but when you change most of the good guys at this age found somebody already

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Sorry Ivr made you feel bad, but this was personal for me, I meet girls who like to have fun and don’t like a guy who treat them nice and after that they start to search for them, but the guys found somebody who appreciate them for who their are.

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There is always a way, many of them are divorced.