My co-worker and I were talking and he mentioned that someone lacked common sense. Immediately I thought he might be talking about me. I feel as though the disease has disrupted basic skills of listening and speaking. I talk to people for a living and a lot of times I feel awkward and ‘not on their level.’ And I’m not talking about rocket science, it’s just pleasantries and making small talk. Does anyone else feel as though they lack common sense?
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I’ve been told by family many times that I “have to use my brain,” and that I don’t use common sense with some things. I feel like I don’t sometimes.
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I wish that I could tell them that I’m pre-occupied with sz. Then they’d understand and wouldn’t judge.
I think (hope) that I’ve got more common sense now than before.
I think that’s different to being able to engage socially though.
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I reread your original post, and it also briefly talks about making small talk. I have a lot of trouble carrying on a conversation. I’m usually just the listener, and I’ve been told I’m good at that, so I assume they can’t tell I zone out of what they’re saying what seems like every two minutes.
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Engaging socially is a challenge. I just think if I had more sense conversations would flow smoother. I lack in responding to people appropriately, I get nervous and afraid I’ll say the wrong thing.
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I feel like I lack common sense sometimes but it is due to my sz.
Oh God, my bf says I take anything as a slight against me if it could be construed as one. I can’t handle conversation much in general because people don’t run on the scripts I have set for them and it upsets me.
Part of schizophrenia.
I have the same problem and it happens when I am experiencing symptoms.
I think it is related to the delusion of reference, like thinking the TV host is talking about you or to you or sending ambiguous messages.
I think when I am not well, my character changes. I talk too much, I say the wrong things, I lack common sense.
Once I told my manager that I thought god had cursed me. 
So don’t be so hard on yourself, it is the stupid illness. The best strategy is never take anything personally.
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Socializing is a skill.
To avoid a long reply, simply feed the person you’re talking to open-ended questions. People love to talk about
themselves.
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I’ve been told by my father that I don’t have common sense.
He’s not being nice when he says this.
I ignore him.
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My wife says I don’t have common sense but I don’t let it bother me. She gets upset about every little thing. She says being home with two dogs is too much work for her while I am trying to work. The dogs aren’t that bad. They just need attention
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I don’t like being with people at all. It was a little better before the gym closed but, now that I don’t have that, I don’t know where to begin socially. I guess my best advice is to have a topic in mind to discuss and hope the conversation takes off from there.
I don’t have much common sense and I’m not good in ‘real time’ social situations… it’s usually only after the event that I become aware of the mistakes I’ve made.
I have common sense when I think things through, I consider it a great gift.
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I don’t think my family means anything by it when they tell me I don’t have any common sense. I’m sorry your father says that to you. It’s good you can ignore him. My father has always said things that aren’t nice, especially when he has been drinking. Not to me as much as my sister and his current girlfriend.
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@zombiepupper I try to preplan conversations too but they never go as intended. Occasionally I’ll say something profound but on the norm it feels like I say the same things over and over again. Not growing. Stuck in neutral or going backwards.
@mermaid1 I’m having issues at work. I have difficulties relating to authority and I get frantic when my manager shows up. It is the stupid illness but I can’t use it as a excuse. I’m just trying to think and act as simply as I can. It’s so hard, I want to give up sometimes. It doesn’t help when I’m a minority and I feel like others (a supervisor) are talking negatively about me.
@PinCushion I talk to a few hundred people a night at work. Sometimes the dialogue is brief and concise, other times I have trouble getting the words out. I try to convey personality in my conversation but my demeanor is very flat (negative symptom). I have to go with what is within me and not work beyond my means. I’m venting…
@fingolfin I ruminate a lot. Don’t put too much stock in the after-thoughts. Others have probably long forgotten them. I constantly try to tell myself that there is no wrong. They say 80% of conversation is body language. It seems backwards to me, I perceive that 80% of communicating is what’s said. Sz is a hearing disorder and a speech disorder.
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I used to think that I say the most in appropriate things to people. That I don’t think before I open my mouth or think to much… I don’t have common sense ether, but Im starting to think that is because of this disease
The best thing you can do is try to give yourself a brake and don’t think so much (I know is hard) just try to enjoy everything
All my life, I’ve been told that I’m “book smart” but am severely lacking in common sense. I feel that my common sense gets better as I get older and my book smarts diminishes.
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I’m not good when it comes to practical matters. As for socialising; I have great difficulty initiating conversations and struggle with small talk. Knowing when you can add to a conversation or need to listen(timing) is difficult.