Interestingly, when his therapist from the hospital called today ( I'm sorry but she has failed at her job, many parents of adult children who had her as their loved one's therapist were complaining of lack of communication- which was voiced at a family orientation) she said that my son didn't "qualify" for outpatient treatment. I told her "I won't accept that an answer from you and I would like to speak with the person who made this decision - I am looking at the printed handout of the outpatient information which your facility provides at the front desk and ,my son CLEARLY qualifies according to the brochure's criteria." I was transferred to the receptionist who transferred me to the outpatient doctor. I had gone his route before but only made to his secretary. Today he answered. I pleaded my case. I was polite and showed my commitment to my son's treatment and it made a difference. He is taking steps now to get me some answers as well as consulting with other doctors and nurse practitioners at the hospital. When it came down to it, I could tell that his main concern was that my son, aged 19, would be looking more for people to "hang out" with at group therapy rather than focusing on his own personal development. This made total sense with me and I was able to see the doctor's side. Why would he want to bring a non-compliant ( well, not anymore) "boy" into a group therapy which included adults who were truly trying to cope with their illnesses. It made total sense. However, he sensed that I was very involved with his therapy and is going to call me back with an answer. If it's not with his group, then he will have other answers.
Taking this experience to my NAMI meeting. I learned a lot today!