i have 4 roommates, it can be good as long as you have appropriate rules and boundaries. and decent roommates too
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I always considered roommate,but I have only one small room.and no really space for two.It’s only 16 square meters,and the closet is full of my things,so I have to get another one.I cannot afford one more bed,because it’s not enough space.
Place was rented and only for singles.Once two girls lived here and they were sleeping on the one couch,as I suggested.They couldn’t get along in such small place.
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I lived alone for 30+ years now, it has its ups and downs, when you feel the need for company or want to talk,it can be very hard
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I agree.But is rare now.It takes time to get used to it,but when you hooked on freedom that’s it.
I find turning the tv on to a local station helps with loneliness. I would also find some people who can look out for you. Maybe a clubhouse? Maybe a good case manager or therapist you meet with regularly? Going to support groups or church? Getting a peer specialist? I go out during the day so I only ever deal with demons at night or in the mornings when my parents are gone. But routine also helps. Maybe cook breakfast then go out for a walk or to clubhouse, go grocery shopping and visit the library, come home and turn on the tv and make dinner and do chores, call or text someone you know before going to sleep. Or if you’re really feeling lonely at night, and it’s safe, go out at night for a drive or a walk??
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I must say You got me wrong 
.I’m not complaining.We live in such difficult situation here right now,that having a flat is luxury.Only small group of people can afford good life.Most of them work very hard to support themselves.
@anon62973308 I called the manager in Church kitchen the other day where I used to volunteer few years ago.The one who knows me has retired,and this one is rejecting me for third time this year.He says that they have more volunteers they can’t accept.And they all are healthy unlike me.My earlier manager used to laugh when I had anger towards other annoying people,and one I told I have sz.I gained his full trust with money and supplying the kitchen with necessary things.I didn’t have even to report how I spent Kitchens money.I worked everything there and was his right hand.But eventually,he got cancer and had to retire.I mostly wanted to work there now because of free food.
I once worked a couple times in a church kitchen and it didn’t really help me meet many people. To meet people, it’s sometimes helpful to seek out your own kind. But my dad says friends come and go anyways. You need to have family who care. If you like volunteering in the kitchen, there’s places like the homeless shelter that might need help? Our homeless shelter gives free lunch to volunteers.
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We don’t have independent homeless shelters.One we have is state institution that don’t accept volunteers.I used to go there because then I had money to buy those people coffee and cigarettes.They all lived like a brothers and sisters back then,and shared everything they received.
But times have changed since five years ago.In kitchen where I got full emotional support from elder women who worked there,and was accepted well.I remember each of them.
But now,you don’t just come to eat.You got to have card!That means that only people who officially got their status like poor,have the right to use services.You just can’t give bread to anyone who asks!That’s a shame.
Thank you all for sharing your posts here.I really appreciate that.I feel less alone now.
I felt bad these days because I live in involuntary isolation from rest of my family,who never visits.I had to reach for you people for support.Now I feel lot better here.My mental status won’t allow any more replies!
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