Ever noticed a reaction when someone you might be angry at tells you to do something. And all you want to do is the exact opposite of what they ask.
Or, for example, my mother would brag about how well I was doing and it made me want to fail.
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I kind of understand. when i’m angry with my father in law and he yells at me to stop my jittering I just want to keep moving my legs. its akathisia but still they don’t get it
Like they put the spotlight on it… Like your not trying everyday. Or they tell you not to do something so many times you start to wonder if They’re using reverse logic.
yeah I get this from my dad =(
people who are in our lives and care can be mighty pushy so I know what you are writing about. I just noticed recently that it not only aggravates me it makes me suspicious of the motives of the person who is pushing, which isn’t fair. suspicions and paranoia go hand in hand and I guess I gotta grab a-hold of it.
judy
You really got to get away from those inlaws
chordy I don’t have this but my daughter struggles with it. I try so hard to give her options when I would like her to do something, like “Will you please take your glass to the sink when your done drinking or before you get ready to leave” then it doesn’t trigger that oppositional defiance as much. It seems like for her I’m being bossy and mean if I want her to take her glass to the sink. It hard to understand but she just feels like I’ve been yelling about it forever and I just won’t leave her alone. Poor child.
I’ve heard that teens feel this oppositeness a lot. I remember I did.
yeah it’s common I guess. She was diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) But they may be wrong bc she’s growing out of a lot of it. However she’s 18 now and I don’t do much bossing so it’s hard to tell now.