I have been watching a lot of YouTube for the last year, and got to appreciate some of the content of these people who’re ‘influencers’ or professional YouTubers.
Tonight I am watching some, and it makes me feel really bad about myself.
The collaborations between them just seems to be showing off to me how easy it is to be connected to these other personalities as ‘friends’
To be honest, I feel pretty jealous. I have not had this type of conversation or social experience of having friends for years.
I don’t think these days I’d be able to be sociable, but I am 34 next month, and I feel that since the age of 24, I have not really made a friend, or socialised with people other than those at work, or my family.
The thing about these YouTubers is they have a lot of personality, but I fear that I am not ever going to be able to animate myself enough to ever be like that, or be appealing to people who’re like this
Not really sure what the point of this thread is, but I wonder if anyone here might feel the same way when they see others being sociable, and want to be able to be like this but know deep down it won’t happen for you, ever
Oh, d00d. We’d be friends if geography co-operated. What you see on Youtube is also not representative of reality. Heck, even what you see here isn’t that represenative of reality (I’m careful not to post most of my bad stuff as this place is negative enough already).
Sorry if I am being overly negative here - I think I need to try and be more positive. Just been a hard week with various things going wrong with work
It just makes me a bit frustrated that these people can consistently talk for 15-20 mins in a very engaging and interesting way. The editing I guess is part of the slickness of the presentation of their works, but still, I can’t help but to compare it to myself.
I think I am comparing it because subliminally I have been consuming media in a few forms to try and work to emulate some of these people, as this has been the only real way I can think of to try and learn these skills.
To some level, I have also invested time in this due to a lack of it in my real life.
Something to work on for sure, but we’ll have to wait until things are back to whatever normal life looks like in the future
I used to always feel this way. You’ll find your niche. Being the most outgoing person. Or the most friendly or the most of anything isn’t always possible. You’ll find what you’re good at. No need to compare your sociability to famous people on YouTube who may do this stuff for a living. If you like something enough and you put your mind to it you will improve at it.
I guess you’re right. What I am trying to figure out is how to be likeable. As clearly I am doing something wrong.
Not like I want a million subscribers to an internet account or anything, but just trying to update my firmware in such a way that I can comfortably socialise with something relevant
Maybe I am looking in the wrong places for this?
This is true.
For the social stuff I know exactly what I need to do - move to the nearby city…
There is so much going on there.
The trouble is it’s away from my parents, and it’s far too expensive for me to live there.
When I was a teenager I used to go to the city a lot to watch live music, but I do not have anyone to go with anymore, as I alienated myself from my friends when I was psychotic
I think they just got sick of me in the end being delusional and not knowing how to deal with things properly.
Relating back to these YouTube people, they seem to have mastered the flow of conversation, and just being able to talk about a topic to an audience in a way that’s personable, and I would like to also have this skill
