My mom got knee replacement surgery and uses a machine to help her pain. I asked how it worked and my stepdad started yelling at me.
Is this rude to ask her this?
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No your step dad is being a jerk
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After he yelled at me I got psychotic. I thought some mean things about them and am I am afraid they read my mind because now they won’t talk to me.
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You need to adjust the dosage. Ie time there
Was what I said rude?
Not at all! Perfectly normal thing to ask. Your showing an interest
Do you think that threatens him because he doesn’t do that?
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No your situation is what the term “oy vey” is meant for
all you can do is say that
nothing will change people’s personalities
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He cares for my mom but gets really angry at her too. My mom threatened to divorce him several times but cancelled it because finally Dave started showing my mom respect.
Hasn’t changed his view on me though.
That’s basically what I thought. “Oy vey” is the only way I could react but I also got very angry.
Politely ask to spend some personal quiet time alone with your mom.
If he doesn’t allow it, he’s likely threatened and is paranoid himself that you will try to say secret things against him.
Good luck
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What you said was not mean. However, a person could say the same thing sarcastically intending to mean that machine can’t possibly help. That may be what they thought you were saying. I’d go and calmly and gently say you genuinely were curious about how the machine does it not that the machine can’t do it
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He said “Why the ■■■■do you have to bother your mother with this ■■■■?”
Didn’t sound like he was trying to be funny.
Sorry misread your post.
I didn’t do anything that would suggest that I was joking.
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Does the machine regulate pain medication dosage? Is it an obvious answer, and he’s triggered by stupid questions?
Or is it a really hard question and doesn’t want to be bothered trying to figure it out?
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I don’t even know what the machine is and was asking about it.
I get it man. I n social situations you defer your own internal questioning to speaking loudly assuming others with be helpful. Hes a jerk.
Bro .people can be jerks … don’t blame yourself for other people problems. You have enough to deal with already.
Also …if you find a way to challenge those thought broadcasting delusions please let me know because I have that too …
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I’ve been getting better over time. It’s taking a while, but it’s happening.
The only way I suggest getting rid of these delusions is challenging them. Just ask if it makes sense. That and ignoring them.
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Thank you. I’ve been angry myself about it and needed clarification to see if it was me that did wrong.
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Also do you have any suggestions on how to handle this situation? Should I blow it off, never talk to him again or what?
Sorry I’m just hurt.