When I was 13yo I had a ”meltdown/episode” of a kind at my grandma’s house
They started dragging me around because I hadn’t ate anything that day because I didn’t want to
I blacked out and hurt people etc
I couldnt even probably answer simple questions in that state and I almost got ran over by a car that time
they were considering calling the police or an ambulance if i didnt calm down
They wanted to admit me into a psych ward
I didn’t calm down but they held me down…
Proceeded by insults like ”insane” and ”crazy” and insulting me from the time when I was a 1-2 year old ”you act just like my schizo son”
it was really hurtful to me and i was just crying after it
Well my neighbours have two autistic kids who have meltdowns regularly
The parents have to be firm with them and definitely shout sometimes
But generally mostly the kids appear to be happy, there 8-9 yrs now and less meltdowns happening
I found it distressing to hear the meltdowns it really upset me
But if i was a parent i would probably do the same, try to calm them but be firm
We all have bad memories that we wish weren’t there
But every day of your life won’t have been bad
Its okay to find it hard to let go
Just try something distracting, calming
And chat whenever you need to