Thank you guys. Im going to quit porn now.
I agree, itâs more difficult for men to use their imagination.
My big issue with porn is that it can become very addictive, also one has to be very careful because there are some very frightening sites where women or men are being assaulted or abused!
I have been cutting back drastically.
There was some research done that showed that guys were more aroused by visual things whereas girls were more aroused by imagining like you said, hence why guys had porno mags and girls have romance novels.
Hahaha You have met with the same problems as me. Go and see what I posted in the last few months. I managed to quit
But also that may be biased because porn is so focused around guy pleasure 90% of the time. Like dang the classic porn formula is like the guy gets the girl to give him a blwojob for 5 minutes then bangs her for like 10 minutes and itâs done. Even if itâs a longer vid, so rarely does the female star get any âwarming upâ or anything like that. So maybe those differences would lessen if there was more porn created with women in mind. I dunno.
this is kinda true in a way. but some âmenâ learn from porn. believe it or not i was 8 years old when i first saw porn. technically i couldnt undertsand it at âALLâ. but this is more of a personal issue. it goes deeper than that, butâŚi sorta had to learn the âhardâ way also. in General i think everything is changingâŚthe sexualityâŚwhat it means to have âsexâ in general. think bout itâŚ50 years ago you talk to a women if your were experienced or not that they would think differ with you about men or relationships. In the endâŚwe just really want to know somebody. âmaybeââŚcause we didnt understand ourselves.
Yeah itâs sad. Same I was also 8. It may be an unpopular opinion but I sort of feel like âeducational pornâ should be part of sex ed. They donât necessarily have to show it in school (and this wouldnât be elementary school or anything) but could provide resources to videos that showed both partners helping each other get the same amount of pleasure and whatnot, and also showing what real people look like not perfectly hairless and often surgically modified pornstars.
Thatâs because when I think to why I looked up porn when I was a kid, it was because even though my mom gave me the talk and an informational book describing all of that nowhere in the book did it show pictures of what sex actually looked like. I feel like even if it had just had diagrams or drawings of what sex looked like my curiosity would have been satisfied and it wouldnât have drawn me down the porn wormhole at such a young age.
Sex is an important aspect of being humanâŚpeople should be educatedâŚ
yea i see what you mean. sometimes i feel like some things are best not said. Im not necessarily talkin bout your parents or whatever. From my experienceâŚsometimes i think i was better off not knowing âsexâ. not knowing âdrugs or alcoholâ. in some kinda way its like we were âputâ in the situation in general. Were left with this i guess, im not trying to complain but this is the âresultâ of things alsoâŚ
Two optionsâŚget a girlfriend or boyfried or get deep into religious stuffâŚso deep you feel you are a child.
yes, just fantasize
I almost wondered if perhaps it has to do with evolution. As in perhaps both ways gave both sexes an advantage in getting to the point of reproduction. Or perhaps it has something to do with the way cultures have often shamed female sexuality. I guess that was because they hadnât invented contraception yet and they didnât want women being pregnant by many different guys.
Perhaps some form of artificial selection in regards to that? IDK I havenât read up extensively on evolution but the idea seems like it would fit.
Same kind of porn men do.
Sometimes I watch porn. It gives us ideas of how to perform, but we really get addicted to visual stimuli. I also get worried about premature ejaculation if I watch too much porn. But once a therapist told me about transcending the time you need to ejaculate. There are 3 stages of sex: Physical, Mental and Emotional. The physical is when youâre attracted to your partner and satisfy all of your physical needs. The mental is when you satisfy your phantasies. The emotional I didnât understand exactly what it is, but must be something magical.
Yes you can quit porn. Itâs not that easy but youâll be glad you did because it will improve your relationships for the better with women. Iâm not promising you a girlfriend here but you may find women who you used to not find attractive to be attractive and if you have anger issues with women it will improve them.
My imagination is dead. My mind is dead. I need port in order to get aroused.
Yes it is possible but not worth for me, it is best to just reduce your time there to what you really âneedâ.
Like⌠lesbian porn?
I do not like watching porn so I donât.
I hate hearing people have sex infront of meâŚ
It can torment me specially when I have nowhere to escape too.
I hope my boyfriend does not watch it.
I think it can be like cheating specially if they do telepathy or ohone sex and connect n sex with some one else.
Hearing a parent have sex was torment I could not stand and I became furious at such disrespect.
I do not masturbate and I am faithful to my man and he said he is a one woman man.
I have only seen porn a few times and Iâm not keen.
I was stripper and masturbated on cam when I was messed up but I sucked and did not make any money being a stripper
Not enough to support me such as pay for groceries etc
I was too messed up and might of been programmed that wayâŚ
I hated sex when I was a child
Hated hearing it seeing it etc
I want romantic intimacy and connection,playful and affectionate etc
Holy sacred union .
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For you guys it may take determination and a true will to seriously want to quit.
I have come to the conclusion that it is not possible to stop unless you got a girlfriend/wife to take care of your needs and service you