My parents both just retired, and I am having a hard time digesting the information
When I explained it to my mother I said that we’re such a close knit unit, that I think it’s having an impact on how I view working
I told her I was jealous, but later told her I think it might actually be because it’s significant change in circumstances to people close to me, and I find it hard to process the information
The second part I think is the reason
In 2013 they tried to pension me off on benefits and give me a place to live as they thought I was not worthy of repair
Part of it may be me thinking back to this event and wondering how much different things would have been now, and whether it may have been better
I don’t know how to feel about this to be honest.
Really glad they can stop working and spend time together, but this difference for some reason I am finding hard to cope with, and my only self-deprecating theory is pure jealousy - or maybe it is the other thing?
but from an outsider perspective, if you have given work a chance you probably thought it may have been because you might be capable and no one can tell better than you since you are you and you had the mental capacity to make that decision at that time
so i would say it is a GOOD thing that you at the very least gave work a shot because you never know if you don’t try.
so now after having tried, at least you can say you know what you truly are and aren’t capable of as opposed to having not have the faintest clue and potentially wasted opportunities,it is part of the process, trying
I can kinda understand.I was a little envious when they retired, they don’t have to work anymore and get a nice pension, but they worked hard their whole lives so they deserve to take it easy now. I think it also affected me because I realized they are getting older and won’t be around much longer. I don’t really have anyone else.
I will miss my parents tremendously and I’ll miss my mom sticking up for me when doctors don’t agree with me. I would have been “screwed” without her. One pdoc wanted to lock me up in the nut house but it was my mom that said no. Sometimes the pdocs don’t listen to me and think they know better. Many times it has been my mom and that made things better,
Financially I think I will be fine though which helps alleviate stress. The house across the street sold for 1.4 million a few years ago, and property prices have only gone up. I can’t afford this house (insurance, bills, maintenance, etc…) by myself, or even with my brother, he has a low income job, so we’ll probably sell the house when my parents die, by that time it’ll be worth at least 1.5 million, then by a smaller place in a different town where real estate is cheaper, then sit on a million dollars during my retirement. At least that is one positive about my future.
But I don’t have any friends or a gf so my future will be lonely. I have my brother, we have a good relationship but are very different, plus he doesn’t understand schizophrenia.
I guess you can fill out a universal credit form and just be honest on it and see if you are entitled to coming off work.
I don’t know what you are going through but if you feel it is affecting you seriously, continuing work, maybe it is time to go on universal credit.
what about universal credit, and speaking to a job coach of theirs about your circumstances so that they can guide you on a part time job that you feel safe to do with your diagnosis. only if you feel that you can…or when you can
The thing that I am uncertain about is how you will be able to continue affording living if you are paying off mortgages and such? maybe it is still possible