Is facing Fear good?

I am not even able to play a indoor game.
Lucky for me there is no much split mind,
as there are no comments as a separate entities,
but my own thoughts talking to me.

I am my own persecutor.
Any new task I do and successful or not, I persecute self.
Is it good to start doing more task and face more fears.

Is facing fear good ?

Planning to categorise all the fear in a book and tick them off.

Is this a good start off, to face the got dam fear.

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I’m alone, so alone I look to a voice for comfort and he is never kind and is trying to make me commit suicide. I can’t face the fact I’m alone.

I’ve actually gotten better lately.

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Start with smaller fears and work your way up. Trying to do too much at once is a recipe for disaster.

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Yes one of my fear is to go out and meet new people.
Making a note in my book.
I know its hard, very hard almost impossible.
I don’t even know how to start a conversation.
I think wikihow is a great place to start and experiment.
Do anyone, know any other materials ?

Ask the other person questions and show interest in her, not serious questions though.

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I was always about me, I spoke to a girl and talking talking and talking about me and don’t know what she was listening to or lost in her own world. Her cab arrived and I had to remind her, that her cab has arrived.

Yes @Jinx what you said is mentioned in wikihow too, thanks, got to try out this methodology.

Yes, there are seven main virtues 4 of them are called cardinal virtues, and one of those 4 is fortitude, which is roughly understood as courage. Its the ability to face and overcome obstacles.

If you do not exercise this virtue by doing dificult things it will atrophy like a muscle that is not exercised. If you exercise it it will grow. Even if you cant face your biggest fear head on you can still do other difficult things like regular exercise or work hard at something to give you that toughness.

Dont you find that people who workout a lot have a sort of toughness to them? Thats because theyre working that virtue and facing tough things. Its not the only virtue so its not the main focus of life but its 1/7th of the way there.

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Also if you make attempts at developing this virtue and still have difficulty, and are still finding it a challenge, developing the virtue of temperance will be of help. Its usually the first virtue that must be attained before perfection in the other virtues can be made. Temperance is having balance in the use of the pleasures of the world, and the most basic and core exercise for temperance is fasting or atleast slowly reducing the amount of food your eating so as not to be a slave of the pleasures of life.

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What are the three orther virtues?

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Is this a good start off, to face the got dam fear.

Maybe you should talk to a therapist, if one is available. You might need some support when you face these fears.

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I believe in the theory of gradual exposure.

Tackle your fears one step at a time. Even if it are baby steps.

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Thanks for sharing your knowledge, true i should grow,
I tried to read a book and 3/4th went over my head,
Even what you typed had to read it thrice to understand.
Yes fasting is very important, it would give a sense of control on self.
Becoming a slave to life pleasures is happening unknowingly.
Its really difficult to even discipline self.
Thanks again, I will look forward to exercising my body and mind.
And yes noted these points too

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Thanks for your kind comment :slight_smile: i hope you feel better. Youre very brave in facing your fears

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Temperance
Fortitude
Justice
Wisdom
Faith
Hope
Love

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What kind of therapist you are talking about,
I tried psychologist. I lost hope in them.
And I took things in hand did a self expeditions in CBT in enrolling a course,
I got some Idea where I am failing, still I am not able to guide self,
as I am facing memory issues, like I am not confident.
The fear of losing all, now a days I don’t find interest in anything.
If I recover I have no plans to do anything,
as everything is snatched away.
All my interest and dreams are gone.

Yes I need to take steps, @Jonathan2 thanks for reminding them.
I tried motivational videos but they just motivate,
but the action should come from my side.
As I practised some responses to be withdrawn,
In its pursuit I had to give up all interests.
I will start again now.

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If I have no stable mind to even analyse these seven virtues, then I am not a human.
I feel nonhuman, As I have none all misplaced.
One thing though I know that this path is full of suffering and pain.
Which is the path I choose,
When I see every one, they have their own life of philosophy.
Some things always goes unanswered. What is the purpose of earth?
Why are we here, Is it something like school, getting us prepare.
Some times I feel we will be the strongest soldiers later on.
The messier, the Caterpillar, the beautiful, the Butterfly.

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You actually sound like you know a lot of things it seems like you always have thr answer to your own questions but are just unsure. :slight_smile:

It seema like you have a lot of love in your heart which is the greatest virtue. The greatest love is to lay down your life for your friends. That involves a great deal of suffering. So if youve lived a life of suffering consider yourself well prepared.

Just because people are sometimes mistaken about the truth doesnt mean theres not a truth

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