To me its not worth it
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I had a step son in my first marrriage…he blamed me for our half a million dollar bancruptcy…it was both of us…we were both delusional during the time that we blew that money…not a father, wasn’t in the cards…
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I didn’t have children and it’s certainly too late now. I wouldn’t have been able to look after them. So I think not having children was one of the best decisions I made.
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I’d like to within the next 5 to 7 years, if it’s in the cards. I think my cut off age for thinking about children will be around 45-47. I’m 34 now.
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I do have children, but they are grown now. I wasn’t a great parent, but thank God that my husband was/is. I’m a lot better now, but when I was younger, I was very driven and high-strung in addition to being mentally ill. It was a bad combo for sure. I look back and want to cry sometimes over the way this thing or that thing played out. I would give my kids so much more attention, so many more hugs, so much more quality time and attention.
I’m taking human development as a course rn, and so much of what I’m learning says that through each stage of life, your relationship with your parents is so important in how well you are able to adjust to new stages of development. It makes me sad to know that so many issues we ran into stemmed from my cruddy parenting. If anyone has non-adult children or does in the future, I can’t stress enough how much time spent with them means. Build good memories for them.
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Your there for them now @Happy_H and your a good person
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Fuuuuccck no. I don’t think I can handle all the screaming and crying they do when they are young. Kids are extremely expensive. I don’t want to pass down sz/anxiety to them either. Next time I have sex with a woman, I am definitely using a condom. Or I have to trust her and she’ll have to be on birth control. I never want to be a father.
I had a hysterectomy a while back and was happy to sign the sheet that I understood that I would be incapable of having kids. If I had had children, I’m sure that all of my hospitalizations and instability would have traumatized them. So I always figured that it was better for me to remain child free.
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I am the same. I am completely inconsistent and for my own situation I couldn’t have done a kid justice.
Glad I have never had kids
No way. Kid would be worsening my life
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I regret I didn’t have child. But it’s good decision
I already have a toddler, a bonus son and a baby on the way.
Call me nuts, but it is what it is.
We all make our own choices I suppose.
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Nope, not having children because I’m insane. I don’t want anyone suffering like I have.
My family is tempting me with children and a marriage. With a wife to take care and help out with things I think it would be very manageable. I’ve always dreamed of having my own house and a spouse, and children and family. There’s like a 5 to 25% chance of me deciding to try for things like this. It’s all completely up to me, but it’s possible with my family help.
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I have 2 children aged 4 and 2. Won’t be having anymore. Some days it js very trying on my mental health. I’ve never known such deep a love though what I have for my children.
No, nobody ever wanted to date me long term so I stopped trying. Then I got sick, took meds, and gained weight which made it even easier to just give up.
It’s the more affordable option definitely but it does make me sad.
I think, that am too sick for kids, yeah… 
I wanted them, but no, i also have a body disorder, which disables me besides the sz, its too much illnesses…
I really dont have the energy either… I get headaches still from loud sounds etc, i would be a bad mom i find…
And am still single, while some exes wanted kids, but not from me, cause they saw how ill i am…
In fact even without that, my state is too severe yeap and i’'ll always keep something as symptoms, even if now i feel for freedom finally…
I just have one mi friend, who pushes me to have kids, cause she had one, but shte even doesnt understand what is to have a body disorder as well, so i wouldnt be able to get up from the bed on some days…
Plus i have problems to go out often, this is impossible for a kid…
Yes, i get even stigmatized, that i dont want kids…
Hugs to all
No way. I struggle enough taking care of myself. And then there’s the whole financial side of it.
I have a nine year old. It wasn’t on purpose, but it’s that true sappy thing where I would never change it, and I have really great support from my parents, who live five minutes away. I was able to stop my medications completely and stay stable during pregnancy. I’ve been to the hospital once since he’s been born, he saw me yelling a lot and I feel really guilty about that still.
Overall he’s pretty well adjusted, (empathetic, funny, makes friends, likes school) as far as we can tell. If he starts having symptoms of basically anything mental health related, me and my family will be on watch for early symptoms and interventions. My parents have kept me alive during all the schiz years. Whatever he needs, I’m in.
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I have 1 biological daughter, and 2 stepdaughters. I wish I had a few biological children for my daughter’s sake. Unfortunately, she’s not close to her stepsisters.
And I think she needs people in her life beyond parents and coworkers. She’s 25 and has no friends outside of work and says young men are only after sex. They don’t take girls out on dates anymore and they’re not respectful.
So I’m proud of her for not lowering her standards. I’m just simultaneously wishing she had love in her life like I do. My family and friends are everything to me.
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