I’ve been talking to this really awesome woman for about a week, and we made plans to talk on the phone tonight and I’ve been ghosted. I hope everything is okay, but it also sucks if I am being ghosted.
My mind is jumping to conclusions, and I cant slow things down. I took a klonopin to calm myself down. I have this sinking feeling in my stomach and it feels horrible. This always happens to me. Ghosted out of nowhere.
that used to happen to me a lot when dating online…please don’t fret…there are plenty of awesome women out there and maybe there’s a reason she hasn’t talked to you…but maybe she did ghost you…hold on…it’s not too late for her to show up.
Confirmed, she blocked me on the site I met her at. I just dont get it. She was texting me good morning every morning and the communication was great. I’m at a loss.
I believe there are lots of people that do that in online dating to thwart men from gaining confidence in the site…being mean in other words to hurt you…please don’t be affected by her meanness…keep your chin up and go for another one…you will find love I’m sure…it worked for me.
Haha you know I’m not broken up after thinking about it. I’m talking to another girl, and I asked her to tell me if she loses interest or doesn’t want to pursue a friendship/relationship and she promised shed tell me instead of ghosting me.
At any rate the girl who ghosted me saved me some trouble. At least it was only a week of wasted time. Could have been worse.
well I’m glad you are recovering nicely…glad you found another girl…good luck…
Thanks jukebox!
People don’t do it for those reasons, that’s paranoia.
Most likely she just found someone she found more interesting to talk to. I’m sorry, but it happens.
Maybe you were being catfished. It could of been a Man U were talking to.
Another reason I would ghost people is because I just plain chickened out. I liked them, they were interesting, I wanted to get to know them better. Then the time came to meet or talk, and I was just too terrified. And then afterward I was so embarrassed I blocked them because I was worried they would be mad at me. I guess I never thought about how it must have looked to them until now. I always assumed they just thought I was a coward.
I wondered that myself. I kinda had a feeling it was too good to be true. We had too many similar interests and she always liked the same things I did.
At least it was only a week, people invest a lot more time into someone and then they get ghosted, that must feel really bad. I got my Hope’s up a bit too much this time, lesson learned.
You know, I never even considered that she or anyone else who ghosted me was afraid. I always feel like its something I said or did, that I’m the problem. All of the psychology articles on the issue of being ghosted say not to feel that way, but it’s hard not to when it happens a lot. I dont know if I’m projecting an insecurity or something.
The weird part is that she ghosted me after a happy message, so I dont think it was something I said.
I only ghosted someone once, and that was because they were very very mean to me. I just hate not having an explanation, but it’s like my pdoc says, closure is overrated.
Thanks for the different view on it, like I said I never considered it may be because she was afraid.
Also, don’t call yourself a coward, when I give ghosting context, it makes sense someone can be overwhelmed. I’d be okay with being ghosted if I knew someone was scared. I can relate to that.
I’m glad I could offer you another perspective. Another possibility: she might have been trans, and she worried her voice would give her away. That was usually the reason I chickened out of meeting people. I knew that in person, they would be able to tell I had a feminine body, and I was worried I would get rejected because of that.
That must have been so hard, I’m sorry. 
That would stink if that was the issue, because I’m totally okay to date someone trans. My dad would have to adjust to it, but I think he’d come around haha.
I actually tried a trans dating website but there were too many fake accounts.
I’m glad you have found someone who accepts you! I have difficulty finding someone who accepts me just because of my mental illness, I consider my sexual preference to be on a spectrum, because my preferences change a lot so I dont know if I should claim to be pan or not because sometimes I feel like I am and other times I dont. At any rate my point is that it must be 10 times harder to have a mental illness and be LGBTQ on top of it. It brings an entire different level of judgement you have to worry about. You give me hope!
I did find someone! And now we have a kid together! Love is out there. You’re a very insightful and compassionate person, and those qualities are super hard to find in a partner. Pro-tip, if you do want to be open to dating trans people, on dating sites we mostly look for people who are listed as pan, because even though it’s actually a lot more complicated of an identity, the dating site shorthand has become pan=trans-friendly. Many of us actually have our profiles set to not show us any straight people.
Thanks for the tip! I dont know why I never thought of that, it makes sense.
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