But I’ve smoked much more ciggs plus on the energy drinks. I’ve craved beer, yes… but is smoking more worse for you? I need to take it in steps… I’m smoking a 20 pack a day?
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I AM SO PROUD OF YOU MAN.
20 pack a day or 20 cigs a day? 20 pack is … let’s just say you should call Guiness if that is the case.
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20 cigs a day yes…I’m going yo AA. Thank you everybody here for recommending AA to me (you know who you are!) I’m going to start in small steps, beer first, then ciggs… then energy drinks is going to be my last. I just seem to be smoking more and the energy drinks because atm I like a can in my hand. @shutterbug thank you.
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One problem at a time man. Get over the hump with the booze and then work on the cigs. Both at once will be too much.
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@shutterbug Thanks dude… The beer drinking was the worst. I make financially unwise decisions when I’ve drank.
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You and me both, bro.
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wow great job on 3 weeks…that’s amazing…keep it up…one day at a time, right?
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Congratulations. Keep going, keep doing whatever you’re doing that keeps you sober. Are you still going to meetings? Try to get phone numbers of other members who you can call if you feel you’re going to drink or just to talk to about the program.
Ideally, you should not be smoking. I don’t see how anyone can smoke in this day and age when all the evidence on how bad it is for you is at your fingertips on the internet.
Three weeks is great. If you want to keep sober I would recommend not going to bars and not hanging around people who use drugs or drink. Nothing is going to send you back out drinking like going out with someone who drinks and encourages you to drink with them. Sadly, some people don’t care that you’re trying to stay sober and will actively encourage you to drink with them. Avoid those people.
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@77nick77 My second time going to AA last week I got nervous again but it was better than my first time. What got me is the pledge at the beginning that people can recover… @77nick77 Thank you for advocating for AA on here. I don’t understand why it took me so long to do it…?
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Congratulations on 3 weeks! Work on the beer first, the cigs can come later, then the energy drinks. Keep it up, good job!
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thank you @WhiteRaven
The number of meetings people go to each week can vary and one a week is kinda alright. It would probably just help you to go to two or three meetings a week. Don’t stress if you can’t make that many meetings but the more meetings you go to the stronger it will make your resolve to not drink.
@77nick77 I’m managing one meeting a week at the time (on a Tuesday) Unfortunately I live in a small town and don’t drive… I’m going to AA on Tuesday and attending the Sunday service at church… I’m taking it in 3/4 days steps atm and it’s working. I’m still craving beer especially if something triggers me. All my friends drink and to be honest they are not being supportive,
Like I said, if all you can do is one meeting a week that’s fine.
Hanging out with people who drink is especially hard when you’re new to the program and you’re in early sobriety. The Big Book says something about avoiding people, places and things that have to do with drinking.
Incidentally, I don’t want to overload you with too many suggestions but if you haven’t read the Big Book yet, I would recommend reading it cover to cover. The whole book is interesting and the personal stories in the back are particularly of interest to read.
When it comes to your friends you know the best thing is not to go out drinking with them. Part of the reason I got clean was timing. I moved away from all my old haunts where I used to use and moved away from all my old friends who I used to party with. I started fresh and I didn’t have those temptations anymore. If I had to choose between my friends and sobriety I would pick sobriety every time.
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@77nick77 I know I shouldn’t hang around with people who drink but I’m isolated friend-wise… I live in my group home with people with severe Autism and its quite restricted interactions wise;… I strive social interactions. I’m quite lonely and the people I drink with do take advantage of me but I’m lonely.
And loneliness is awful …
OK, AA is a good place to make new, sober friends who want to help you stay sober and if they’re working the program like they should then they’re not doing anything shady. When some people get into AA they completely change their life and get more responsible and honest and want to live according to the principles of AA.
I’ve met many addicts and alcoholics who were hardcore drinkers or drug users and had been in jail or homeless or violent and criminals who joined AA and became model citizens and not only stopped drinking but stopped doing anything illegal and lived with integrity and honesty. This isn’t theoretical, I have actually met and known many, many people like this.
@77nick77 Indeed!
In my local AA group there is somebody been going for 5 years sober. and he openly introduced himself to me first time, hand hand shaken me. @77nick77 I want to be like him in 5 years…
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That’s entirely possible. It takes work; they say working the AA program is simple, but not easy.
@77nick77 You’re recommend me for a while for AA. Thank you dude… 3 weeks now…
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