It’s a journey. We all find our levels but with things like sex just do what you feel comfortable and sensible for you. No one should judge you and most of those here won’t I’d hope. More power to you on your journey.
We support you in it anyways. I know it’s tough.I didn’t get laid till I was 31 due to same seriously stuffed up paranoia. Luckily it got good after that when I sorted it all out. Meds help. Better interactions with humans helped. It’s all a journey.
Much respect You’ll get to where you need to be. Trust your judgement and look after yourself primarily. You won’t lose looking after yourself and like everyone you deserve happiness.