I always see sz women complain about not having a guy. There are plenty of perfectly good guys on this forum. Take your pick and send them a pm. It’s like they complain just to complain.
Lol that’s funny
Aww, thanks @anon90843118 
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Thanks for the compliment @GEDchill
:))
I’m very self conscious person though. So that affects my personality severely.
Even if its not always so obvious
This forum is not a dating site. I’m sure she’s not complaining just to complain @GEDchill
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I wasn’t talking about her. Just a general observation.
I can’t afford a girlfriend, I don’t make enough money.
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Butterfly, I’m sure you’ll find a boyfriend when you’re ready for one. If I was about 35 years younger I would make a play for you myself, but you wouldn’t want a broke, sixty year old man.
I’m not ready for a boyfriend so soon after my divorce but I sure miss snuggles, makes me wonder about when I’ll start dating
it sucks man, there should be services we can use to pair us up with suitable partners, trusted services that actually work 
all these dating sites i have used so far are just a front to make money and its a bit sadistic, it doesnt focus on peoples happiness just there wallet or purse
How much does a GF cost? Lol
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I think my best bet is avoiding lunch/dinner and just getting coffee. The pressure for me to pay for the first date is pretty high, at least in the places I’ve lived when I’ve dated.
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Go to the beach and fly kites. Make sandwiches.
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Hearing from all my exes, the best way to get a decent relationship is to just keep in contact for a good amount of time.
Voice/Video call and text.
Once you’ve established a good connection, then it’s a good idea to meet.
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I don’t agree it’s easier for a woman. I think its hard no matter your gender. I spent most of my life with whatever guy just strolled my way because it was better than being alone. Sometimes I even tried dating girls. I settled in relationships that I wasn’t allowed to be myself. Just so I wouldn’t be alone. Well I spent three years alone wandering across Canada. I didn’t talk to anybody, I finally started understanding me. This has helped my current relationship. I didn’t go with whatever was convenient or available. I waited for someone I knew I wanted and that I would get along with. It took two years for him to become available. (No I was not stalking 
) We started talking on the phone a lot after they broke up and eventually he moved in with me. He had to relocate from the other side of the country. I’m glad I waited for someone who was compatible with me, it was definitely worth the wait.
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The impression that I get is that it’s easy for a woman to find a man, but not necessarily a good one. From my experience as a man and from talking to other men, it’s challenging just to find a woman to be with at all.
Hey, at least you can joke about stuff like that.
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I feel like I’m being very selective this time cos last two times I got psychosis after being with a guy.
I am listening to my feelings much more this time round.
@MikaMoon yep I want to be with a suitable one this time round. Its about time I don’t get psychosis from being with a guy.
My main way of telling if they are suitable is how anxious I get around them. And no warning signs of being disrespectful type. I’m sick of that. Been there done that.
But its not easy to find.
Anyways I think maybe as lots lots of people have said I need to chill out a bit and just take a step back much to my dismay
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Idk I think meeting early on can also sometimes work cos then u don’t build up the scary tension of eventually meeting up. U get it over n done with n can actually speak to them face to face which might or might not remove some of the scariness.
But I guess different methods wrk for different people.
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I think women are in general more selective when it comes to going on date with a guy. I don’t think that has to be a bad thing though.
I could be wrong about the selective thing though…