I think the main driving force for the majority of good people is the desire to be loved. I had kind of given up on love for a lot of reasons. I haven’t had much success since my diagnosis in the romance department, but as I’m finally getting more grounded in reality I’m starting to realize that without love there is very little hope, at least for me. I’ve been disappointed so many times with love, but I’ve decided I’m not going to give up. I have hope that I’ll find someone, even if it takes me a while. Just figured I’d share. I know I said in another thread a long time ago that I have given up on life, but I’m going to try to make it work the best I can with what I have and just see what happens. You can never know until you try.
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Every woman I’ve ever dated cheated on me. I never cheated on anyone. They are not worth it.
I’m glad that this is giving you hope. I have little desire for romantic love these days so I might take some issue with your theory that this is the driving force behind most good people, if that’s what you meant. Maybe the younger people though.
Romantic love sounds like a headache I don’t need at this point in my life personally.
But I am glad that it is giving you motivation to try.
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Not romantic love as a driving force but love in general. I do think romantic love is a powerful catalyst for reality and why things happen in our world. I think you shouldn’t give up Bowens. You’re a good guy and I’m sure you could find someone if you really tried
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Thank you for the compliment @crazydiamond444 . It really isnt a matter of giving up though, @crazydiamond444 . I just have no desire for a romantic relationship. It sounds like a lot of work to me. Something I may have been more inclined to in my youth, not so much now. I hope that it works out for you, however.
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Good luck, you never know unless you give it a try
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That’s not what you said last night.
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Im also not interested in romantic love. I disagree with the statement theres little hope without love. Thats a dangerous kind of prescription to give yourself and personally tend towards statements like there is hope without love for the primary reason that you are putting all the power of your hope in another persons hands. Forget about other people as a source of hope especially a hypothetical person who may or may not exist for you.
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My hope is in the hands of humanity. Thinking I can be an island unto myself is denying my humanity. I am connected to the whole and the pursuit of meaningful connection creates meaningful experience
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I think evolutionary we need love but realistically we don’t need it from 1 individual so much and the way it’s set up in society. I’m content for now with no romantic love. Maybe I’ll have love in the future idk. Or flings. But for now I don’t need any romantic relationship just family love
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You can do all that without being hopeless without others
You are a human so you are always connected to humanity
Family Love is the best…
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Dog companion love is the best
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Not every woman cheats. I don’t cheat on my husband. Ever. I’m completely in love and devoted to him. There are lots of women like me. You just have to look for warning signs, those red flags. Leave the woman who is untrustworthy, but don’t trash the women who are true to their significant others.
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I completely understand you. I feel like that too and im very scared because i feel like no one will love me. I feel as though i have too many mental and even psysical scars that prevent me from finding love. I feel so sad andso unwanted. But i know i shouldnt really but i cannot help it. I just want someone to finally understand me just a little at least.
your always coming to this site at breaking point in tons of distress looking for consoling
don’t you wonder how you make other people feel when your so very negative, don’t you care about others feelings?
who would want to be with someone who was constantly in crisis, i know i wouldn’t
just saying dont take it oo personally i’m being frank with you
you scared me half to death when i first joined here and seen your posts!
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you always come across as kind and considerate. I don’t doubt that it is your illness that has made you feel less loving and accepting of humanity and it is good that you want to change your perspective, very good and healthier. I don’t think it will happen overnight (might be a challenge for you) and i think if your anything like me then you have strong beliefs and connections with things higher than us its not easy. I wish you success though
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Im sorry i didnt mean too i just want to know if anyone is the same
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Theres a lot of people with sz /sza etc here and of course we all have things in common
Its a good place if you give it a chance get to know people
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I know what you mean . The meds probably don’t help . One ■■■■■ left me I am looking for another . Hard work . I did fall in love with the kitten , she broke my heart when I could keep it any more due to travelling.