I value the forum; but i need to offer I may be too, ahem(disturbed) ultimately

I’m suffering actually. I spent the last 15 years with too little human contact. Also spent too much time in the ‘basement of my brain’. ‘It went the dull and wicked ordinary way’ - The National

Maybe I’m saddened regarding match.com since ‘the polling data’ may just be in by now, and what it is telling me is: I may ‘never be able to choose a club that would have me.’ - Groucho Marx.

Just got frustrated in an exchange with my old man. The takeaway is always the same, in that he is dishonest.

I’m flipping in a sense, I could go on about my life, and in a few various directions.

I thought I’d pose a fair question to females; accusations and honest questions can be amazing, they offer chances to say things.

But is there ‘ever a feeling of survivors guilt’(for lack of a better word) in having an easier go, in dating? Embarrassment can feel contagious so I thought I’d try and air it out. Plus I don’t begrudge I am smart but I’d love to hear it hashed more.

I think I’m becoming a new age Freud in the (best of ways). My (female) therapist says he was obsessed with s.e.x… I know next to nothing about him, but maybe I can resonate more; to a few… and perhaps be more female friendly (somehow; and if that’s even an accurate read on the subject…).

It’s not my biggest thing that is grist for the mill you should know.

As for grand examples… maybe it’s just a way to find common ground… many people read people magazine, and many people study stars in the sky, so maybe there’s more to that personality type.

Hi, sorry about the frustrations with online dating. Not sure how much easier it is as a woman? Hope you start feeling better!

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Oh wow I’m embarrassed a little but is what I said not accurate? Definitely not trolling just speaking the way I wish my old man would talk to me maybe!!!

I had an easy time dating when I was single. I do feel bad about it because my closest friends are single. It doesn’t seem fair. But, they are each very judgmental of men in an unfair way. For instance, my best friend weighs over 350 pounds and is only 5’2”, and she only wants a fit, good looking guy. I don’t think that’s fair.

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It feels like in order to speak about my journey it requires more of a mosaic, I’m not ready to accept at all that I have advanced schizophrenia though im actually an iota more concerned now since reading your takeaway.

huh yeah maybe it’s easier than I think it is. I really am stressed about it right now. :slight_smile:

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I have been hospitalized many times and have struggled with ptsd, depression and anxiety since I was a teen (I’m 43) plus now the dr says I have psychosis since 2008 or earlier if you count the religious psychosis I was diagnosed with in like 2006. Plus I have physical health problems so that’s probably why I was approved so easily.

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Thanks @pianogirl I guess maybe we’re all under stress due to global concerns.

I’m glad you were resilient in so many ways.

Also I’m glad you share your age - it’s just nice to know we are contemporaries.

Still feel guilty about getting stern with you regarding that cross country psychosis thing I brought up about a month ago.

Guess I require a lot of reality testing(reassurances), water off a ducks back I’m sure.

Guess I’m just having a bad hour. This disorder - whoah is it the very worst!

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Don’t feel guilty. I’m not worried about it at all

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Women generally get to be pickier, until after their 30s then they tend to have to settle. Lifes not fair one way or the other, its not good or bad.

Just know that I think online dating is the worst way to go about dating. If you can make a genuine connection that way great, but I think in person relationships are how you make the best impression and how you can best screen people.

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