On Sunday I went to a concert with my partner and he said something really mean and when I said I don’t like jokes like that he said im not serious. I dropped it, and brought it up yesterday and it didn’t go well and I’m just getting increasingly upset with him.
Sorry for the rant just ugh I kinda want to scream over it and how I’ve been feeling any way lately.
Sometimes we need to let things go and move on, even if they upset us. In the bigger picture, does it matter?
I think this is a good place to rant and scream. I’m sorry he wasn’t nice. ((((Grookey))))
What did he say? If you dont mind me asking.
I mean kinda yeah, it hit on a major insecurity of mine
I asked him before th concert if my hair looked dumb and he said “no the only thing that looks dumb is your face”
WTHeck?!?! That is so not okay.
Also, I think you’re lovely.
Yeah I’m really confused why anyone would think that’s funny to say to a partner 
And when I tried to talk with him about it he just changed the topic completely
In over 20 years, my spouse has never said anything like that, even in a fight. If I show insecurity, he supports me, and I think that’s how it should be. I think everyone deserves that.
Since your partner didn’t, I’ll tell you that your hair always looks fabulous, and you are great inside and out. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking this is somehow acceptable behavior. That would make me insecure, too.
He hasn’t tried to gaslight me about it thank god but he’s dodging talking about it, and to be honest I used to feel emotionally supported but I haven’t in a while
That’s fu-cked up of him to say. Sorry you had to deal with that Grookey.
I’m glad it’s not just me blowing it out of proportion… though that would probably be an easier fix
Thank you for the reassurance 
Okay yeah, that was really mean and totally not funny.
That’s messed up Grookey. You always look just fine in your photos. You don’t look dumb at all. I hope your partner treats you better.
Is he always that mean?
No, he’s said some rude remarks before but not mean like that.
For me, after my friends or coworkers make a mean crack like that it’s all downhill from there and they’ll start making mean comments all the time.
Yes same here. Always starts as a joke “cant you take a joke? Why are you so sensitive?”
Exactly.
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