what now and what is going to happen to me?
Since you think you’re selfish, you can work on correcting that and becoming less selfish.
Hope is never lost 
Are you sure you’re selfish?
Just curious, what are you doing that makes you believe you’re selfish?
i’m not sure to be honest. but if i wasn’t selfish then why do i feel such awful inside lately when i am a at a disadvantage. maybe someone is massing with my mind.
i don’t know i feel by trying to take care of myself like trying to exercising, avoiding things like, tv, too much computer, people are not liking that. and i get the vibe i am too clever or selfish to people.
I came to the conclusion years ago that I’m selfish and tried to correct it. It didn’t work. I also asked God to give me love for my husband. That doesn’t work either.
so did your life improve or you are still suffering?
I’m still suffering but I’m not you. One person’s life doesn’t dictate another’s.
Well, there’s a big difference between taking care of yourself first and being selfish. It’s like they tell you on the plane; you’ve got to put on your mask first before helping someone else with theirs.
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what will happen in life if you just put on your own mask and not help others? will people isolate you or hate you? is it my duty to not be selfish in life and show others i am not selfish if i want the good stuff in life?
Just because you put your mask on first doesn’t mean you can’t help others afterwards. That said, I don’t think your morality is defined by what you do when others are watching. It’s who you are in the dark that matters most.
Just the fact that you’re worried about being selfish means that you’re probably not selfish.
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but i am angry at most people because they abused me. i want revenge in any chance i get to people who have done wrong to me. sometime i don’t even want revenge, i just want to leave it to god. is that selfish?
oh good. i am worried because my whole life might be a lie.
It’s okay to be angry… I don’t think it’s at all selfish to leave the revenge up to God. In fact, I think it’s commendable. Sometimes it’s best just to leave well enough alone.
Seems simple enough, become less selfish and more educated.
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Hi, I’m an abuse survivor. I was heavily bullied and abused at school when I was younger. I understand how you feel. I often want to see them again and tell them how miserable I felt back then. I just leave them up to their future to decide if they can offer kindness to someone, to make up for the abuse they have inflicted upon me.
I think it’s okay to feel angry about what you experienced. I often feel really angry about how they so cruely treated me at school. But, I know that the past has passed, and now they cannot hurt me. I may still have pain, but they cannot touch me again.
Please know that you are a warrior. And please know that you are strong for surviving what you have went through and still standing tall. I think you have the every right to be proud of who you are- for your strength and for your beauty of who you are.
Stay strong.
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but i feel embarrassed and i am in a situation which will humiliate me if i try to be less selfish because i am already hated by people who i live with. and i don’t want to start smoking and gain weight just to please others. that’s what people around me wants that i self harm.
ok make sense now