I’m in a social group and it’s triggering me

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I’m getting triggered by a social group that I’m in. There’s a clique and I think I have a couple of frienemies. I’m uncomfortable and it’s setting off my paranoia. I’m on vacation and I never worry about things on vacation, but my schizophrenia keeps reminding me of what is upsetting me.

I just like going to Tuesday lunches on my day off. I don’t want any drama. I talked to a woman who is the organizer of a meetup group I’ve been in for eight years. I asked if I could plan Tuesday lunches with that group. She was excited and said, “sure” and made me a co-organizer. So, I have somewhere safe to go to have Tuesday lunches.

I’ve spent six months planning events with the group that’s triggering my schizophrenia symptoms. It’s hard to walk away, but it might be best.

What do you think?

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I think it you could go or stay and both are decent options.

If it were me,

I’d give the group a break.

You don’t have to go to every event.

Maybe pull back a little and see how you feel.

I hope I’m understanding correctly.

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I think you’re right. There are not many events planned for the first group. I’ve gone to every lunch because I’ve planned them. I think I’ll take a break and plan lunches with this other group. This might help me see the first group with a fresh perspective.

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So basicaly every Tuesday you had to go for lunch with them?
Just the fact you planed them and Had to go, might be a trigger.

I would take a month break to see how it feels.

On one side is good you planed the lunches. It kept you busy an gave you a nice comunity purpose, but on the other side could be exhausted on long run.

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I feel lonely if I’m not seeing people on Tuesdays. I look forward to the lunches.

I don’t like the dynamic that’s developing in the group though. So, I may plan the lunches elsewhere. Thanks for responding.

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My way of dealing with things that intimidate me is that I lower my shoulders and charge straight at them, so you can guess what my answer is.

:wink:

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Thanks for answering me. I don’t know what this means though. Can you explain it?

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I think that sounds sensible.

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In a group only do however much you are comfortable. I personally avoid groups. I prefer one on one company. I think it’s because I am also very introverted. All I’m saying in a group setting just do what you WANT to do and don’t feel guilty to say no. And if they are frenemies, you don’t need to be their friends. Spend time with the people you like. I’m old now. My temper and tolerance levels are low. So I don’t bother with dramatic people.

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Any group has pluses and minuses. Dealing with it makes you develop self.
This might be a reason why people gossip so much, they think themself as a plus when put others on minus.

But for sure is best to have a wonderfull time instead of triggers.

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@Davincii thank you.

@anon55031185 I agree. I’ll avoid the frienemies. This helps me step back. I always have a hard time walking away from something or stepping back.

@everhopeful thanks.

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