I’m an introvert and love doing things by myself.
I used to feel embarrassed eating out on my own etc. but I realised that it’s ok to be on my own. Though I think the whole thing of doing things on your own is romanticised by folks on social media and can be toxic in a way.
I do have a very small group of friends, but I rarely I rarely meet them and message them and they don’t either. I mean, some of my friends met up after discussions on group chat that I didn’t take part in. They didn’t even try and and include me in the convo. One of them couldn’t make it and the others took a pic of themselves for her. Not even mentioning me but saying how they would have loved the other friend to be there.
I’m just finding myself isolating myself from others and my chronic illness (which has caused me mobility issues).
I used to feel lonely a lot but I don’t really feel it anymore. Im glad I don’t because I used to feel really shitty.
I have been trying to make new friends for years but haven’t managed to make any, but that’s ok. Having social anxiety makes it difficult. It’s as difficult as online dating as I’m using friendship apps.
I think my post doesn’t make sense as I’m babbling on…
I love doing things alone. I’m generally an efficient person and slow people drive me up the wall sometimes. One thing that bugs me is women in line at the store, they have plenty of time to get their membership cards and credit cards ready, but they just stand there, then when it comes time to pay they search through there purse, sometimes it takes them forever to find them, and it slows down the whole line, little inefficiencies like that bug me.
That’s why I like my job so much, it’s all solo work and I am by myself all day so I can do things my way.
Even grocery shopping, I told my parents to stay at home. I memorized all the grocery stores in town. I have my list and know exactly where to go and what to get in an efficient manner. When I used to go with my parents they would have me pushing a heavy cart all over the place, back and forth, it was frustrating.
I do have my lonely moments though, I miss socializing sometimes like I used to when I was younger, pre-schizophrenia. I joined the Bumble app to increase my social circle and maybe meet a woman.
Now add stupid and slow driver to the mix, and it’s a recipe for hell for me. I just lose my ■■■■ at all this kind of stuff.
Even worse – when they don’t step aside, away from the register to put all of their stuff away, and rudely stand there, taking their time, and make you wait while they do it.
I’m ok eating out by myself if I have a book to read, otherwise I feel like people are judging me. It’s tricky doing things alone. I haven’t been to see Dune yet, as I’ve no one to go with.
lol, because I am a delivery driver I spend all day on the road so I deal with bad and slow drivers constantly (as I’m sure you can imagine). I have efficiency targets to meet!
I would lose my mind!! Especially because you have a truck and a company logo you have to represent, and can’t drive like a lunatic.
Me, on the other hand… I always get a small, powerful car in a stick shift, that I can maneuver the ■■■■ out of! So I go zooming around people as best as possible.
There’s so many freakin’ old people here… it takes them an hour to make a turn.
Actually, with my job they are rental minivans (I think from Enterprise) with all the rear seats taken out so I can fill them with packages, there are no company logos (or logos of any kind) on them so I don’t have to worry about giving the company a bad name. They do have other driver positions that deal with heavier items that use bigger trucks with company logos on them so those drivers have to worry about giving the company a good name.
My previous car was stick shift, I loved it, and I miss it!
@Kuro , I feel the exact same as you. I can count on one hand the number of (platonic) friends I’ve made over the last 44 years. I just don’t have the slightest idea how to make friends.
This used to make me abysmally depressed. Not anymore. Ever since I found God, He’s my best friend now. So now I enjoy His and my own company and now I’m joyfully happy and I don’t need anyone to fulfill me.