I don’t know whats going on but I am really down on my life here lately. The other night I took a full bottle of kolonpin. I didnt care either way if I lived or not. I took it then went to sleep. Nothing happened I woke up the next day just fine. It’s just hard because I am 38 years old still living with my parents. I feel as if the whole family thinks the worst of me for this. I just wish I could find a piece of happiness.
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Oh man - swallowing pills is not the solution! I would get in touch with your doctor - psychiatrist as soon as possible - like now, or no later than tomorrow. There are meds for depression. I dont know going to the emergency room or hospital is also a good option - sounds to me like you are suicidal! I would talk to a close family member as soon as possible - also let them know what is happening to you. Get in touch with a SUICIDE HOTLINE if things get real bad again.
Good luck!
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I lived with my parents until I was 50 or so. It made me feel like a failure compared to the rest of the world. I hate to say it but things are easier for me now that they are no longer living. Do you have places to go on your own? Do you have a car? Things to do - That helped me a lot.
Yes, getting your antidepressant right should be helpful…
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Wave has a point but think it’s best to take yourself to the ER like now!
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Man, I freaked out a bit- @Dreamscape is absolutely right- Take yourself to the ER like right now!
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My dear friend I live with parents yet. I am 48 years old. I can not work yet.
Tolteca.
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Hi tolteca,
could I help you . I mean get you a part time job or something .I mean i dont know how i can do it but i can try.also maybe i can try to get you a girlfriend.give me a chance to help.maybe we can discuss.also
I am studying how to motivate myself .luckily I am not on antipschotics so maybe I am not as demotivated as
those on it. I find going out toi beautiful places helping me with demotivation .also I am studying how to rewire
demotivation naturally.
thank You
Oh really; What do you mean about "
I don´t understand very well, my dear friend.
Tolteca
matt—you need professional help…we can give encouragement but you are the one responsible for taking the action…there is help out there…and you are not alone in this :“dark place” and every one here is behind you…hang tough…grace
I lived with my dad in 1888-89, when I was 28 or 29. It wasn’t weird at all. I moved in with my sister in 1995-98, when I was 34-37. I was working and I pulled my own weight. I paid half the bills and cleaned the bathroom and the yard. It was great. It wasn’t weird at all.
Imagine the weight of the world pressed down upon you.
Once this is de-pressed, you’ll be just fine.
sorry to hear that,what do you do mostly in your life,why not you go find a work or maybe join a social club and find friends to pass time?
I lived with my parents off and on until I was 42, then I was put in an assisted living center. Living with my parents was demoralizing.
This is really worrying, I would definitely take yourself to A&E. Death is not the answer “its a permanent solution to a temporary problem…” I hope you feel better soon.
What’s assisted living like? I’m threatened with that if I don’t make things work at my apartment.
I felt demoralized living with my parents too. It was probably my own point of view, but I felt it in every bone. Especially when people came to visit. I wasn’t working or pulling my own weight.
Do you have a car?
Ya I have a car and I know death is not the answer. I was just in a low spot that night. I feel a bit better now that I talked things out with my folks. And yes living with my parents is demoralizing. I just cant shake the feeling that Im less than because of it. I am on the list for housing but I don’t know if I can afford it or not. Especially since I have a car payment. Thanks for all your concerns.
Things can get better, i am at same age living with parents, there is nothing wrong with living with parents, its actually better, home made food, clean house, support, in other countrys its a tradition when a guy lives with parents.
No, I don’t have a car, but I might just be able to save up and get a very cheap one, if I saved all my money very carefully. Repair bills on the car would probably eat me alive, though. I’ve been in several assisted living centers, and they vary as to quality of life. You would want to thoroughly check out the one you go to. Where I am there are two different situations for the residents - independent living and residential care. Right now there are just four of us in independent living, but more are on the way. In independent living you have your own apartment, which you might or might not have to share with a roommate. Right now I get sixty dollars a week to buy necessities. I also get $143.00 in food stamps. Also, they supply the smokers with a pack of cigarettes a day, and if you don’t smoke they give you the money they would have spent on your cigarettes - $50.00. They do that if you are in the residential living program too. In independent living we live in an old, brick building. It is run down, but I don’t mind it. People in both programs go to town once a week. That’s when the people in independent living get their groceries. The town, Siloam Springs, has about 15,000 people and is six miles away. Every once in a while we go to Fayetteville/Springdale, which have about 90,000 people together. When we go to town we eat out. The residential care people eat off the dollar menu, and the independent living people can eat what they want and can afford. If they want to, the independent living people can eat at a different place than the residential care people. There are about forty people in the residential care program. The residential care building is up a hill from the independent living building, about 1/2 a mile away. The town that Lake Francis Assisted Living is in has around 300 people I would guess. There were a couple of small stores in it, but they closed down. The residential care program people get $10.00 a week spending money, plus the nonsmoking money if they don’t smoke. Some of the people get money sent to them from home, but if they don’t get that they just have to make do. The residential care building is also run down, but not too badly. Sometimes the toilets are fouled. Most people sleep in two man rooms, though there is one room on both the male and female sides where there are five people. The food varies as to quality. Some of the meals can be kind of skimpy, but other meals are good. Sometimes for breakfast they gave us this paste of flour and water that they call gravy. You would get a piece of bread or biscuit with it, along with your choice of a cup of coffee or a glass of milk. At just about all the meals you can have seconds if you want. We go to a clubhouse for day treatment five days a week. We have one group there, but for the most part it isn’t too structured, which suits me fine. The day treatment clubhouse is right next to the independent living building. They give us a second breakfast of a pop tart and a glass of milk if we want it. You can also have coffee with your milk. Both the residential care people and the independent living people go to the same day treatment facility. Basically, where I am is fine with me. I’ve been living at Lake Francis Assisted Living for over thirteen years. I’m thinking of moving into public housing, but that would leave me awfully isolated, which can affect my mental health.
I forgot to mention, the $143.00 in food stamps is once a month, along with the no smoking check.