I just waited in bed nearly 3 hours just for my friend to call me. Doing nothing just waiting and checking my phone. She said she was going to call me to check if I was ok because I was sending her panicked messages earlier. Then she said she was skyping with one of her guy friends and would call me after. It’s been 3 hours. I just feel depressed that she would know I’m struggling and need someone to talk to and she would just go skype with a friend for hours even when I told her I had to go to bed soon. This is what I meant when I told her I don’t think she values me the same way I value her. When she tells me things that concern me I don’t say I’m going to Skype my friend and then forget about her for hours. I call her right away to see how she’s doing.
She doesn’t repay almost anything in our friendship. I respond to all her messages for help and advice immediately. I give her feedback and praise on all her creative things. She only does this occasionally to me. I keep telling her she’s a good friend but she’s NOT. She’s NOT a good friend, she’s self-obsessed, oblivious and barely thinks about the people around her except for the ones she wants to have sex with. I’m so angry.
G I know Exactly what you mean…to the core…
I’ve been there through thick in thin for this one person since 2008… The story is forever. All I can say is …I don’t want to say this as advice.
I just know she’ll realize and regret.
I call those fair weathered friends.
It sounds like your friend is selfish in your friendship. I would talk to her about it, maybe tell her you feel hurt when she doesn’t respond to you when she claims she will. If she has time for other friends she obviously doesn’t value your friendship much. Maybe you can say it’s important that she calls
when she says she will. Does she have sz, too?
I’m a terrible friend myself, but I don’t expect or need a lot from my friends either. I’m sorry you were treated like that. I would guess that she would feel bad if she knew how her not calling you affected you. On the other hand, maybe she’s not a person to lean on and she doesn’t even know that about herself. Anyway, not everyone is that person; the one you can always count on. It sounds like you are and that’s wonderful, but maybe she’s just not. We can’t all be like that, I guess.