I have to say that I have never talked about this topic in this forum because I am too shy; I have to accept that it embarrasses to tell you that I suffer because I don´t have sex, but it is real.
I know that prostitutes might be a solution but it is not exactly that I want.
I would like to have a partner who can share feelings, ideas experiences and, in the same way I would like to smell her body, touch her skin to feel affection and, you know, love.
Maybe I am confused, but I don´t only want sex. You know, I would like to complete experience.
I haven’t felt affection in a couple years. At this point I could just use a genuine hug and tell me it’s gonna be ok. And not one of those “we’re friends lets hug for less then a second” I’m talking about one of those good ones you feel the warmth of another person who knows you.
I have never had a problem getting affection when I wanted it, but I had a really hard time getting my body to tolerate it. It was also hard to find someone who would be able to stand by me with all my issues from sz and PTSD. Do you have your eye on anyone in particular, or are you just hoping to meet someone?
Do you have any good dating sites in your country? Here, we have different ones for hooking up than for actual relationships.
None of them work for me. I can’t compete with the 150 guys on the site in my area who went to Harvard law. Not to mention the 120 that went to penn school of business…Then there’s me Mr. Honest SZ no ■■■■■■■■ i can’t get a date for the life of me. I find those sites to be ridiculous. Doubt I’ll ever find a girl unless I move to another country.
I go on long hiatuses between break-ups. My strongest relationship attempt in High School ended so sourly that I went 7 years without a care for someone else. The strongest relationship attempt in my life happened after that 7 year hiatus ended and that ended 10x worse.
Now I’m into a 3-year hiatus and am keeping my celibate status until I feel comfortable & confident again. Solo intimacy is a way to release those pent up feelings, by the way. Self-pleasuring isn’t a sin, at least not to me, and it clears my mind in such a way that I don’t think I could live without practicing it.
Oohhh my friend, in my neighourhood there are 3 or 4 beautiful women, they are similar age but they are married with kids; I try to flirt with them but I think that they don´t want with me.
I haven’t had a real relationship for 8 years. Today I was downtown before going to school and I saw a busty blonde girl crossing the street with a massive cleavage and her teddies bouncing all over the place. I wanted to initiate a talk but I can’t bring myself to it. I don’t feel confident being on benefits and having severe overweight issues. When and if I slim down and get a nice job I will start going to bars or approaching randomly, can’t do it now, I’d get flatly rejected.
Yeah, I guess it is easier for a girl. I could always get dates. The problem was finding someone who would want a second date, especially after I totally spazzed out at their attempts to kiss me.
Maybe you could join a meetup group full of people looking for friends. That way, it is totally casual, so they aren’t secretly evaluating you the whole time.
No my friend, celibate it is no option for me.
I usually masturbate, i don´t feel sins but lately, I have felt the desire more intense, I don´t know why.
Thanks for your answer.
Try e-dating & meeting people within your local vicinity then. That’s all I’d be doing if I were feeling a strong drive to get back into the hotseat again.
I think it’s more @levelJ1 culture than western culture. You have some awesome experiences, and I envy your sexually adventurous attitude, but if you’re looking to find a serious partner, plentyoffish and bars aren’t the places to go.
Thanks, what do you think is a better way to meet someone? its tough.
my parents want me to go back to church. im sure i could meet someone there. but i just dont want my head to get filled with religious mayhem again.
OK Cupid worked for me. Or meetup groups. I made a lot of friends on couchsurfing.com. I also just go up to strangers in coffee shops or bookstores and start talking to them.
Maybe you have to stop being so ruggedly handsome that all girls take one look at you and immediately want to jump in to bed. Try being uglier.
I try, I try, I try, but when I stay on my bed and turn lights off I feel myself alone so I miss a someone. However I will follow your advice.
Thanks @metime.