I have realized that I don’t talk too much about my problems with men. I generally talk with women about it. Women give me some insights, but I would like to have more male friends and talk to them honestly about my problems. I think it happens because most bullyings I suffered were made by men, so I fear talking about my problems to them. Does it happen with some of you, guys? How do you deal with it?
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Ha. I don’t talk about my problems to anyone in real life. So if you’re talking to anyone about them you’re ahead of the curve as far as I’m concerned.
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Yeah i have been bullied by both men and women. Twice in psychosis. I talk to everybody though and 2 my best friends in life are women 
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I think it’s important to receive some feedback from people. It’s like a team action. I don’t talk directly about my problems. Sometimes my dialogues are kind like:
- I’m sad!
- What happened? (…)
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I think we men are kind “trained” to hide our feelings. Women generally don’t have this kind of “training”, so they are more sensitive.
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Several things.
I think that making statements about men and women in general is wrong not only in that it promotes prejudice, but
it is also factually wrong.
Please steer clear from general statements about men and women as it’s simply wrong each person is unique
and it doesn’t matter whether it’s male or female.
@brugluiz @YoungSchizo
To you I will say @brugluiz don’t be afraid to talk about your problems to men, you might be pleasantly surprised
if you stop relying on your “gut feelings” and prejudice.
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Thanks, @Erez_Shmerling!
Both sex can be selfish. I’ll look for good friends and I’ll remember those who were good to me.
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That’s not a coincidence m8. Women are more sensitive and upright with you. I have experienced it in psychiatry first hand. Where women are more honest and where man are judgemental and can be plain assholes. I’m surrounded with women in psychiatry and they’ve been the most helpful and insightful practitioners I came across.
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I’ve had male psychiatrists before - no thanks.
Many male psychiatrists are cocky and arrogant.
I much prefer female psychiatrists and therapists.
Two of the male psychiatrists I’ve had were criminal in their behavior.
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Same here, they indeed tend to be cocky and arrogant. I’ve been under supervision from female practitioners for 5 from the 12 years I’ve been in psychiatry and those 5 years I made the most progress.
@Wave @YoungSchizo it is wrong to label an entire gender just based on unpleasant experiences you had.
it is called prejudice and just wrong.
I think that you have to resist the urge to label people.
I wouldn’t tolerate arrogant doctors but that’s just a negative human trait.
No, we are speaking of experience here. Yeah there could be males that are helpful, experienced and insightful but if you meet 10 men with only 2 being helpful and if you meet 10 female from whom are 8 helpful you may easily draw a conclusion that females are more helpful. This also counts for real life.
@YoungSchizo yes I understand that you can easily draw conclusions but I think it’s just wrong.
For example, suppose you were a male psychiatrist, and suppose that a lot of your peers were jerks.
Would you want people to say-" hey that’s a male psychiatrist, let him take a hike" or would you want people to give you
a real chance?
I was bullied by some girls in junior high. But, I talk to women about my problems, when I have any. I have been known to talk to male therapists.
When I meet a male practitioner I give them a chance but usually I found out they better take a hike.
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I understand that not All male doctors are “bad”.
Didn’t mean to give that impression.
I just had negative experiences.
One of my pdocs from the Hospital was a guy, he was awesome!
So there we go.
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You would like my pdoc @Wave
He’s a short Italian guy from Brooklyn with a wicked sense of humor and lack of ego. He told me he did LSD at Woodstock bahahahahha hes a funny guy.
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Yea I’m the same way, it’s probably the reason why I don’t want to see a therapist.
I have no problem talking to my case manager who is a female about my problems, but talking to a guy about that kind of stuff is weird.