I feel very self conscious about my looks

I am going to try online dating again but I cannot get a photo I like :pensive:

On top of this who wants to date a smoker who has Sz ASD and GAD?

It’s all so stressful to me but I want someone else in my life

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Yeah it can be tough to overcome your insecurities but just put one up and see how you go. You might be pleasantly surprised and everyone at a certain age has baggage. I wouldn’t tell them straight up your sz but just work into things. There’s nothing wrong with that approach.

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The photo issue is that I .don’t go out much and have no friends who have taken photos of me.

I am trying to take one using my mirror but it seems so vain and I don’t like it

Use a phone. I find I look better at an angle if I’m taking pics so I usually do that. Better to put something out there. I’d imagine you’ll surprise yourself so don’t be critical just pic one that looks ok. Just a suggestion. If I was dating I wouldn’t hesitate to use online dating sites…

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You are a handsome dude…I’ve seen your pic. You have rakishly good looks!

So hells bells my man! Put yourself out there. I think you’ll be surprised how many women might respond to you. :+1:

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My main concern is that I did this before for 6 months and met no one in person.

The automated no thanks responses from people killed my confidence as I never even got to talk

I heard “Match” was a good on-line place to meet people. Maybe try that dating site?

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Yeah hearing that and it can be hit or miss but it’s worthwhile doing. I found that as a male seeking female most people responding to me were 10 years or more older than me. Weird world but that was the prevalence the last time I tried it.

All’s I would suggest is do the tests/activities which build your profile and just be casual and relaxed. It depends on the website but I think you can do ok for sure.

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I tried Match for a month… but then Covid started. If nothing else I can say you inspired me to try again. Both my siblings met their partners on match, so there’s that.

They have these extra curricular type events to break the ice. I was all set to do this ‘intro to welding’ event.

It would have been good for me regardless.

Does your site have anything like these ice breakers?

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You’re not a bad looking guy. Don’t be self conscious.

I’m sure there are many smokers and also non smokers who don’t mind that you smoke.

GL with the dating sites.

I was on pof okcupid bumble without paying. My experience was that pof was most active but u get some truly random randomers. Its like tkmaxx there’s a lot to go through but its worth it as there’s some suitable ones.

I’m considering going back on those sites in the future they are worth a shot. For Defo.

You could even use that last sefie you posted on here it’s a good one.

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