I feel like I failed my sister in law. Everybody’s mad that we helped her but had to stop because of all the messes she was in. Now she has amnesia and her parents don’t want to take care of her while she recovers from her ECT. Her mom is upset that she’s going to have to care for her. Her dad is upset that we won’t let her stay here since she requires care. Now they’re guilting us to make us feel bad. My husband said he felt bad before all her problems and debts started popping up everywhere. Every time my husband talks to her, she can’t remember the conversation 2 minutes in.
My head is ruminating these thoughts and am having so many voices and beliefs. It’s so stressful and I feel guilty for having brought this problem to my family.
Always bugs me when I see schizophrenic people forced into caretaker positions, I don’t know how you do it, I’d unravel. Certainly that should play some part in who has to take care of her.
If the memory loss is from ECT, doesn’t that mean it’s just temporary?
Yeah, temporary. But her brain was already fried from so much drug abuse. She’s lost everything. I was in the same boat for years they didn’t help me, my parents did. Her parents don’t want anything else to do with her and they keep saying she’s going to kill herself if she can’t get help. The truth is we put her in a super cozy mental hospital.
Well I hope she gets taken care of somehow, I didn’t know drug abuse was involved. That probably complicates things. I’m surprised her parents aren’t more willing to help, my parents are pretty supportive as long as I’m not so bad off as to cause chaos in the household… if I do start acting off-the-wall, like I did initially, I can no longer live with them. It took me a couple years of recovery to earn enough trust to be allowed to stay with them again.
I just hate to see people slip through the cracks but you can only do so much… I totally get why I wasn’t allowed in the house with my family for the first year of this disease.
Oh yes me too. My family said if you don’t want help you’ll have to stay somewhere else. So I decided I wanted to be healthy and have been doing good so far.