I’ve been doing more stuff recently, because I have to. I have a to-do list I’m getting through.
It’s not making me feel better, quite the opposite. It makes me feel like a robot following the instructions of my to-do list.
Everything is an exercise in willpower alone and it’s wearing me down.
I always thought that if I pushed myself I’d feel better . That doesn’t seem to be the case, unless I’m doing it wrong.
Does anyone have ideas on how to manage “doing stuff” so that it doesn’t make you feel worse?
I simply don’t do the stuff that make me feel worse.
My Mom always tells me if i do more i will have more energy and feel better but i simply dont believe this is true
I tell myself that everything I tick off my list is a little step forwards. They all add up to make my life better. Might not notice immediately but looking back things add up.
I use to have a behavioral therapist….and I had a to do list from her. I had to quit because I couldn’t handle it. I feel better now. I think it is ok to make yourself sometimes. For example, taking a shower…. I make myself do chores at the group home. I make myself do chores once a day on average.
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Does accomplishing something make you feel better the rest of the day, or does it make no difference?
I find that if I get something done everyday it makes me feel better than not doing anything. Sometimes I don’t realize this until I’ve gone a few days doing nothing.
If your to-do’s are connected to some larger goal, maybe you could take a moment each day to imagine the bigger picture.
Try acknowledging the fact that you did the thing after you do it. Give yourself a mental pat on the back. You could also try mindfulness while you’re doing things you don’t want to do. It makes things a little more bearable when you feel the discomfort and don’t immediately make it meaningful in the context of you as a person in general or your life.
I didn’t make a plan, when it’s done it’s done, so i feel good when it’s done and with that i wake up…
I feel good after doing chores. Everything that’s done is good.
Maybe convince yourself that you deserve to get those things done if there is some sort of underlying feeling of resentment.
I try to break it down into small parts and take it one step at a time.
When i do things its not for me, sometimes its is for my benefit like eating & drinking but its all part of doing what is right & what is good,
I love the fact that what i do is acknowledged and I’m told that it is good, sometimes i get complimented but in the main its nice to know that what i do to help myself & others is looked at with appreciative eyes.
On the other hand i worry i don’t do enough & i feel like i am falling short, but i just try and focus on the fact that i can only do so much and what i do is appreciated no matter how big or small.
Also sometimes i make mistakes and i feel bad, its a very human thing & nobody is perfect.
It just makes me want to take the rest of the week off lol
Dont do it all at once, theres no hurry think of it as something you can accomplish and give yourself a pat on the back for doing your task …be positive let us know when you do something im sure we can give positive feed back
I don’t work out at the gym because I’d feel mechanical.