I’ve never wished my stepmom a happy birthday in many years. She isn’t nice to me. But she did something very kind to me recently and now I feel like a jerk. I should have made that first step towards getting along. I’m going to make sure I wish her a happy birthday from now on. We’re still on edge a little because she’s never liked me but I need to make the effort just like she did
You’re not a jerk
Thanks @Twialine . I still feel bad about it
I understand but you gotta remember you aren’t
Maybe you could do something kind to her. If it doesn’t work at least you tried. If it does work life will be better.
I agree @crimby. I’m going to put forth effort
When I want to forgive myself and do better, my head turns into a cold, sweaty ice cube of inability. I, too, have to just blunder through it. It works, though.
You are okay. Sometimes I forget dates and feel bad. Though I find that most nice people are nice and even though give belated birthday wishes, they are still very grateful for that acknowledgement. Don’t stress.
You are definitely not a jerk. It takes two to tango. You both have been offish to each other. She put forth the olive branch and now you can reciprocate. I think it’s great you are going to be wishing her a happy birthday from now on.