He hoards. And there is stuff literally everywhere I turn, not to mention the allergies kick in when I go there. I’ve told him but he already knows. But he needs to start throwing stuff out. Seriously… It’s not healthy for him either.
Your partner hoards?
Yes I would say he hoards.
That’s f up. You cannot convince him, and throwing out stuff yourself will be psychological aggression.
I can’t throw his stuff it’s not mine to throw. It has value. But we will try get a 3 bed so he can use one of the rooms for all his stuff.
I don’t know if it will be enough (if he’s a hoarder).
Psychology should help. You are powerless in this situation…
It’s just that he has asthma and has to take an anti histamine everyday . Could be reduced dramatically if he did something about it. I mean he throws some stuff. Only to bring in more.
That’s a terrible idea. Just tell him he has to parse down and give it away
Maybe im harsh about the hoarder bit. I just thinks he collects way too much stuff.
Enabling him by getting a 3 bedroom is no good
I don’t know what else to do. He doesn’t have much time to clean. He works odd hours.
My girl’s a hoarder too. I don’t mind it. It’s her house, her business. I don’t live with her.
Does he hold onto stuff because he thinks it would be useful, or because it has sentimental value?
Have a proper chat with him about it , put your foot down, no more
I just think he believes he will still use the stuff and a lot were gifts … I can’t tell him much but if it’s our house then he will have to listen a bit at least.
For gifts/sentimental stuff, my mom taught me a trick. I take a picture of the item, then put the picture in a photo album. That way, I can revisit the memory and feel the emotions again, but I don’t have heaps of junk.
For stuff I might use one day, I look up the cost of buying another one, then look up the cost per square footage of my home, and sort of charge the item rent if I haven’t used it for over 6 months. If the item only costs $10 to replace, and it is taking up $50/month worth of space, it gets evicted.
If I haven’t used something in the last 6 months, I obviously don’t need it so I get rid of it (not applicable to seasonal things like winter boots, etc). My parents are hoarders and I can’t stand letting my living space become cluttered.
To be fair, its very easy for things to build up and take up space in the home, i try my best to keep things to a minimum but i have a few things that are taking space.
I really hate things taking up space but i was falling down the rabbit hole of ‘maybe someone else could use it’ which made me keep it longer until i found someone ‘and ended up not finding anyone to take it’
also sometimes its a difficult task to sort through everything like i have a vinyl collection and I’ve been wanting to swap some stuff and the fact is that i don’t listen to my vinyl records anymore ‘apart from one or two infrequently’ My pal Jim is thinking about starting a vinyl collection and so i was going to sell some to him at ‘mates rates’
My drum kit will be coming soon so i need to get rid of my sofa bed (i’ve been trying to palm that off for ages)
then hopefully the drums are not going to be left to gather dust & take up un-necessary space.
My mom is a total an complete hoarder. She even keeps broken stuff because “its old”.
Heres one example of how ridiculous she is. She had these 4 probably 2 foot figures of like Rocky, James brown, Bing crosby and somebody else. They are supposed to move and sing/talk. They are in the basement where my autistic, special needs niece’s bedroom is. Well, my niece broke them all playing with them. Nonetheless, my mom insists on not only keeping them but also the BOXES that these broken figures came in. THE BOXES.
She cant throw anything away…and I mean almost nothing. I’m sometimes almost surprised when she throws her used kleenex in the garbage. I mean its bad. We have such a buildup of stuff, particularly in the basement, its just ridiculous.