I know my previous post may seem…questionable lolol
but I don’t think im gay. tbh i thought i was for like a good half of my life. But then I never really even liked the term “sexuality” cuz i never think of anything sexual with my crushes.
U know i wanna get to know them, go out for coffee, give them a rose or two, but I don’t really think about sex. I’ve honestly never have. Idk if its becuz of my meds that Ive been taking since i was a teen… but ive never felt “sexual” attraction to anyone. which is why whenever i told my friends “hey i like this girl” its always been like we’re thinking about 2 different things. idk if i wanna call myself asexual though…see, i just dont like them labels lol
I mean everything i think about is pretty innocent. tbh i just feel romantic feelings to women sometimes and thats just it. i think being gay is fine, and honestly if i felt a strong sense of lesbian identity i guess id somehow wear it proudly. i know im a sz but ive never been afraid to express my opinion or sense of strong identity as long as i can remember.
but just remember, ur not an effin product that needs a label for ur sexuality. i mean if ur like, a can of soup i guess ur ingredients label should just say “mind and soul”.
thats just my take on the whole thing. thx for reading my venting xD
There is nothing wrong with labels as far as they are not used to humiliate someone or associate any bad meanings to them. We as human like to put things in boxes as deep down we all want to make sense of things. And what better way it could be than organising them first so labeling is just a step in organising what we are trying to understand.
Going out, seeing someone or expressing your liking towards someone is completely fine without having any desire to get in bed with the person. Human nature wants to appreciate beauty and it likes to form connection. This is just a normal part of you. Rest about your sexual desires then it depends on other factors too… Sometimes you just don’t feel for that and sometimes it returns back… just enjoy without thinking too much about it because thing that makes you happy is often very insignificant. Just live in the moments…
in my experience sexuality confusion can go either way, you might find that something awakens in you, or you might remain heterosexual after doing some soul searching. at the end of the day sex isnt very important in the grand scheme of things.
You don’t need to label yourself if you don’t feel comfortable. Sexuality is a spectrum and in many cases can be fluid. Also people are allowed to change their minds about that sort of thing, nothing is concrete.
It took me a long time to find a label I identified with. Before that I just said I was queer & genderqueer because it’s more of an umbrella term. Also as berru said, there is also romantic preferences.
