I just started my job as an admin officer at the courts and I’m when I’m with my new team, they are nice and all, I just feel so reserved. Like I’m always stepping on eggshells with whatever I say, I feel like I can’t just relax and be myself. When they chat about fun stuff or make jokes I just say monosyllabic answers and don’t really talk much. I did talk a bit today with them about different foods but apart from that I just feel like I listen and don’t contribute much to the conversation at hand. I wonder if my social anxiety has hit the roof because of the illness.
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It’s like I’m putting on this reserved persona which is totally unlike who I really am. Like I can talk fine on here and express myself fine but when I’m with other people there’s soemthing holding me back and it’s really pissing me off
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That’s just because you’re new there. Just try to fit in as best you can. Eventually you’ll be joining in on the fun conversations.
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Yeah I guess there’s an element of me being unable to relax because I’m trying to learn the job as it’s quite reactive and on the go with so much to remember. Maybe once I’ve got that down, I’ll relax more? but even then I remember being super reserved when it came to my old friends who I hadn’t seen for a few years. I was shy and reserved even with them! I just want my walls to come down lol
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It just happens over time. Once you’ve been there long enough, it will feel like a familiar, safe place. Then you might start feeling more relaxed and social. For me, it always took about 6 months at a job before I felt comfortable socializing with any colleagues.
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I sincerely hope so. I guess it is a matter of relaxing into the role after I get to grips with it. I still struggle socially overall but I’m hoping the job will remedy that in ways I don’t expect. Thanks @NinjaComet
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I bet it will. It just happens slowly.
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I was like this too. At the support job. I personally could not cope it after 3 weeks there i didnt see it getting better, only worse.
So i have decided to go down a job route with less ppl.
If u have the strength to hold on to the job for longer i do really suggest that.
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Well done for trying up to this point already
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That’s how I am at work. Feels like Iost the ability to engage in social conversation. I wasn’t like that before my last episode. I can still bring up work related things but anything social is like a blank wall for me.
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I feel like im an extro trapped in an intro lol. I’m hoping I can break it. Sorry to hear your support job didn’t go as planned. Hope you find what you’re looking for though.
I think you will recover man, just will take a time post psychosis. I’m still in the throes of it but we’ll make it. Trust
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I think most people are reserved when they start new jobs. Give it time. Smile if they’re smiling but don’t worry about joining in yet. It’s ok if you’re not ready. Most people aren’t.
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I feel like this around family. Unless someone is making eye contact and giving me the platform to speak - idk how else to describe it, .
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I worked for 9 months in a restaurant and didn’t talk to anyone the entire time. I have selective mutism and can’t talk to people easily. It’s a lot better now though.
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