Like the title says, I can’t come anymore… unless I go so hard that I’m sore afterwards. Even then sometimes I can’t. Meds are screwing me up man. My SO finally came home and wanted to be spicy but he dry came which is a bummer and I just couldn’t do it at all. So frustrating. I think it’s the Abilify.
Anyone else have trouble getting off while on meds? And what do you do about it?
For me, ablify did the opposite. I was toooo much into thinking and obsessing over sex. It didn’t caused any troubles, but I felt it wasn’t natural to me.
I am glad vraylar doesn’t affect those things. 
feeling pretty normal at the moment.
Interesting. Maybe it’s one of my other meds? I take Wellbutrin, Lexapro, Abilify and Prazosin.
Hmm. It could be.
I just don’t know these meds you mentioned side effects. 
But I think, for most people ablify creates problems with being overly sexual.
But ofc every med affects all of us differently.
I have a new doctor and it’s a woman. I feel more comfortable talking about this with women so I will ask her what we can do about it.
Dont self stimulate for 3 days, then try again.
Make sure you are not overloading your body n brain chemicals.
This is good advice but unfortunately it happens regardless of how many days I’ve gone without. It had been longer than a week since I tried and even still couldn’t reach climax for him. Makes me sad and also mad.
Of course, and thats a huge stress for you. Which does not help mentally.
Forgive me, I know Im a bloke - but Im highly invested in my sex life with my SO, and we have tried/errored many issues and methods in last 20 years. Even with my meds and her busy stressful life we find time to be intimate atleast once per week.
Has your SO done anything to get you fired up? Does he have whole intimate sessions where you are the sole focus with nothing in return? Sometimes my wife cannot do anything for me, so Ill work on her and thats always well appreciated.
I couldn’t cum in 2015 or 2016 because of the meds I was on. After I changed meds that wasn’t a problem anymore. Because of the meds I’m on now I get very little pleasure when I cum. I think I might be done looking at porn after 20 years because of it.
He’s great at foreplay. Sometimes foreplay isn’t long enough for me, but that’s not the case most times and it wasnt the case this last time.
Also I am the full focus. He is my full focus too. I only give him nothing in return when he specifically wants nothing in return. Otherwise I am all over him.
It’s worse when I realize it isn’t going to happen. Because then that’s all I can think about instead of being in the mood. Which inevitably kills the mood.
Hmmm. As an adult, porn has always helped me reach climax. Why do you feel like quitting would help?
It wouldn’t help. I just barely get any pleasure from jacking off to porn because of my meds so it’s not even worth it.
Oh I see. I’m doing basically the same. SO and I are intimate once every few months. Beside that we are pretty much celibate. He is also on meds that prevent him from being able to climax properly.
I don’t blame porn though, it’s definitely the meds. Oh and getting older. I’m just not as interested as I was when I was even just a few years younger.
I see. Yeah thats pretty much your bases covered then really. Your both doing what you can. Your mind truly is your biggest sex organ. Wandering thoughts and anxiety are the biggest killer for mood and longevity.
100% this. I’ll work on letting my mind relax.
Ive been there. Takes time n work to overcome. But it will happen. Avoid chronic pornography if you can.
Medication destroyed my libido. I don’t really think about women any more.
I have to force myself to get off. At least once a day, but my sex drive is poor. At least I’m single.
Mine is so low I have to force it like 2 times a week. And it’s 50/50 if it’ll even work.
I hate this aspect of meds.
I quit porn for religious reasons and now its super hard to reach climax I have to wait five or six days before trying to maybe be able to
It’s hard for me to get off without hearing porn or SO. I don’t have to see it but it’s so much easier to come when I can hear it.
Fortunately I’m not religious so I still use it from time to time.
5 or 6 days is a long time to wait. Do you wish your libido was higher or is it good for you the way it is?